We say
“kids
learn so much more quickly.”
…
What if
a major difference
between kids
and adults
is that the latter
self-judges
or self-criticizes,
while the former
does not?
Category: Short Form
Top-Of-Mind
There’s often a task
at the top
of our mind.
A task
often related
to something with which
we hyper-empathize.
Thus,
intimately related
to our sense
of self-worth.
Until that task
makes sufficient
progress,
such that our need
for safety,
stability,
or security
is fulfilled,
our mind
can get constantly distracted,
reducing
our productivity
and focus.
May we become aware
of what that is
and respond
accordingly.
Wonder
Sometimes
curiosity
contains
judgment.
When we remove such judgment
what we are left with
is pure
wonder.
May you stay
wonderful.
Playing to Win vs Playing to Lose
Start with the win
then work your way
back.
OTherwise
you can get stuck
wondering how you can
not lose.
Assume winning
is inevitable,
then come up with an explanation
that supporrs
that is worth a shot
A Move Ive Seen
If we can predict
what someone will say
in response to us,
and that response is negative
it is no wonder we will not act
Each and every time you respond to
something your employee says
that image is store in the person’s memory
repeat the same thing enough times
and it’s as if there is no chance of. different response.
Managing Up
The folks
whom we neglect the most
in our efforts to manage up
may be
our parents.
The older I get
the more I realize
that they need our support
more than we need their’s.
Change
To change
our Circumstance
may we start
by changing
our “self.”
To change
our “self,”
may we start
by changing
our circumstance.
This may sound paradoxical,
but it merely means
that when something changes
in our environment
enough to inspres us
to take responsibility
for responding differently
to our environemtn
change starts
Amplification of Judgment
One
of the easiest ways
to get social media engagement
is to judge people.
Judge our boss, toxic,
the post shall go viral fulfilling t
Judge our subordinates, lazy.
Judge our country hell.
Is this the world
we want to pass down
to our children?
Validation
At first,
I thought I had to do something huge
for my life
to be worth something.
Until I realized
that doing something huge
would still not be enough
unless I could feel
that it was indeed
worth it.
In other words,
what I was after
was a feeling.
…
Once I realized
that validation
was what I was after,
I noticed I lacked clarity
on whose validation I craved
and why.
…
Once I gained clarity
on whose validation I craved
and why,
it turned out
there were only a handful of people
whose validation
I deeply craved.
So I went to them
one by one
to learn how I can provide them
value,
only to learn
how remarkably simple—
not easy, but simple—
it was
to do so.
It was then
that I realized
that at the end of the day,
the most difficult challenge
wasn’t
earning their validation.
The most difficult challenge
was accepting
that my life can have significant worth
without doing something
huge.
Stubbornnes
What we judge as “stubbornness”
in others
we may judge as “careful”
In ourselves.
What we judge as “resistance”
in others
we may judge as “careful”
In ourselves.
What we judg