What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
Many of us
do not feel supported.
Yet
we rationalize
that we should be grateful
for whatever we have.
If such rationalization
leads to self judgment,
shame,
and isolation.
May we realize
that gratitude
is not mutually exclusive
with not feeling supported.
The Chinese character for human
are two strokes
in support of one another.
Human beings need
and deserve support,
no matter their circumstance.
What I learned in art
is that the work gets done
because there’s an exhibition.
Without an exhibition
the artist can work on their piece
until they’re perfect.
Except
compared to perfection
the work
is never be enough.
The role of an exhibition
is to force us to define
what is “good enough.”
Sometimes,
we need to ask for advice
on how to solve
our problems.
Before asking,
it may be worth getting clear on:
No two “things”
can ever be
the same.
Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.
So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.
We can argue why they’re not
the same.
We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”
The choice
is ours
and ours only.
May we take responsibility
for our choices.
The purpose of coaching
is to help you
win.
Its not
to heal.
Nor is It
to change.
If healing is necessary
to win
then so be it.
If change is necessary
to win
then so be it.
But those are only means
to an end.
Low tension
Creative tension
Destructive tension
is where tension ha sustained
People are not rejecting us
They don’t want to sacrifice
for their time
money
or whatever else they have.
They are not our enemy
They are merely people taking responsibility for themselves
As we age
we may realize
that what we once considered
“old“
is “young”,
while what we once considered
“young”
is younger.
Our parents
can have the best of intentions
and yet
hurt us
in unimaginable ways.
Our
“I overreacted today.”
said the CEO.
I waited.
“They think
I’m a bad leader.” he continued.
I waited.
“They think
I’m toxic.” he continued.
“I don’t know
why I cannot control this.”
he lamented.
“How could others support you
so that you won’t overreact?”
I asked
finally.
“I don’t know.”
he replied.
“What do you not
want?”
I asked again.
“I want them
to stop saying why my ideas
are bad.”
he said.
“Do you want them
to say your ideas
are good?”
I asked.
“No,
of course not.”
he said.
“What do you want?”
I asked again.
“I…
I just want them
to listen.”
he said,
finally.
