The 3Ss

Imagine
a tight rope
walker.

Without
a net on the ground
for the future,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
safe.

Without
a supportive rope
in the present,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
stable.

Without
sufficient preparation
prior,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
secure.

When we feel
hesitant
or vulnerable,
it may be useful
to ask ourselves
which of the 3
is missing,

To Do vs To Done

A to-do list,
can misguide us
to focus on getting things
done.

May we remind ourselves
that it is a to-do list,
not a to-done list.

The list may say
spend 1-hour writing,
as opposed to saying
write 1 page.

Some things
don’t get done
by forcing it.

They get done
as a byproduct
of diligence
and persistence.

Cost of Hyper-Empathizing

When something
or someone
with which we hyper-empathize
is threatened,
we can obsess over rescuing
or protecting
that something
or someone
with which
we hyper-empathize.

This can drive us
to lose sight
of everything around us
and focus solely
on the survival
of only those
with which we hyper-empathize,
even if
it is at the expense of others
with whom
we do not
hyper-empathize,
even if the other
is our so-called
“self.”

Fear & Death

If fear accompanies
the prediction
of a negative future event,
we fear
in so far as we believe
we’ll live past
the negative future
event.

Once we realize
that we may die
prior
to the negative future event
much can change.

Unshared Weight

“The weight
of responsibility
is so heavy.”
remarked the Founder.

“No.”
I responded.

“The weight
of unshared responsibility
is heavy.”
I continued.

“The weight
will be the same
no matter what.
The choice you have
is with whom
you’ll share it
and how.
The choice is yours
and yours
only.”
I remarked.

Not About Me

When someone does something
we dislike
we tend to become
self-absorbed.

They hurt
“me.”
They disrespected
“me.”
They don’t appreciate
“me.”

Me.
Me.
Me.

When we realize empathy,
we often see
that the behavior we considered
to be about
“me”
had less to do with
“me”
and more to do with
them
feeling unsupported.