Responsibility vs Blame

Responsibility
is response + ability.

It is our ability
to respond.

It points to our potential
for autonomous action.

It is distinct
from blaming ourselves
or anyone else
for being
at fault.

Unless you believe
your greatest potential for action
lies in blaming
yourself
or others.

p.s: Much gratitude to Margaret Rose for the email exchange that inspired me to write this post.

Challenge of Compassion

We feel compassion
when we feel concern
for another person’s suffering
and desire
to enhance their welfare.

While sounding
virtuous,
compassion becomes
dangerous
when we have difficulty
realizing empathy
with the
concerns
and desires
of our own
or others,
leaving us unable
or unwilling
to manage our impulses
to hastily act,
in the name of “help,”
often feeling surprised
even resentful
of the other person’s response,
as we judge them
ungrateful,
resistant,
or stupid.

Emotional

We use the phrase
“emotional”
only when we display extreme degrees
of emotions.

It’s as if we don’t feel
emotions
at other times.

But
calmness
is an emotion.

Curiosity and wonder
are emotions.

The certainty
and confidence
or the uncertainty
and hesitation we feel
when making decisions
are
emotions.

Being Right vs Making Right

When
we disagree with someone
we can intend
to be right
by telling them
they’re wrong
or
we can intend
to make them right
by connecting their words
to a context in which
they’re right.

The option to do
either
is almost always
there.

May we ask ourselves
why we choose
one
over
the other.