For Others

What we claim to do
“for” others
is often not
for them,
but for our
selves.

Actually,
it is not accurate to say
that it is for ourselves,
either.

It is more accurate to say
that it is for an image
of who we believe
we must be
to not be judged
as someone whom
we do not wish
to be judged as.

The Moment

There is a moment
when someone who judged leaders
for being unworthy
faces a challenge where they themselves feel
like they have no other choice,
but to become just like them.

At this juncture, we can judge
that we have no choice,
or we can perspective we need
that will allow us to see the situation
in a different way,
where we discover or create choices
we did not know
we had

Answers

“I want answers!”
he shouted,
in frustration.

“…”

“Did you hear me???”
he lowered his voice.

“I
want
answers!”
he shouted again.

“I have no answers.”
a response came back.

He stared at me,
breathing heavily.

“All I can do
is help you discover
what it is
you’re willing to take
responsibility for.”

Irony

I lack empathy.
Sometimes.

We all lack empathy.
Sometimes.

Let those
who’s never lacked empathy,
judge others
for lacking empathy.

Let those
who’s never seen others lack empathy,
judge themselves
for lacking empathy.

Complaining

It’s ok
to complain.

In fact,
it can be healthy.

Except,
complain to someone
with skills.

The skills to summarize your complaint
far more succinctly
than you could
alone.

The skills to organize your complaint
far more clearly
than you could
alone.

The skills to guide your complaint
toward a resolution
you couldn’t reach
alone.

May we neither waste our complaint
on people who lack
such skills.

Nor leave such people frustrated
for lacking
such skills.