The burden of responsibility
is only heavy
while we delay
our response.
Category: Short Form
Lowering Expectation vs Discovering Value
They say
the key to happiness
is lowering
expectations.
Choosing to let go
of what we wish
to see.
Perhaps
sometimes.
But at others times
we can also experience happiness
by discovering
or creating value
through respecting.
By learning the choice
to see what is already there
in a new way.
from what we took for granted,
what we once assumed
too mundane
or worthless
When
There are things
we consider
unimportant
that becomes important
when the context changes.
For example
when I have a deadline,
I don’t care what I eat.
I may simply eat some ramen noodles
and instead spend the time travelling back-and-forth to a restaurant
on doing the work.
But if I have already made the effort to get to a restaurant,
the quality of the food
becomes important.
So it’s inaccurate to judge someone as
not caring about the quality of food,
because they do care
when the context is a certain way.
For Others
What we claim to do
“for” others
is often not
for them,
but for our
selves.
Actually,
it is not accurate to say
that it is for ourselves,
either.
It is more accurate to say
that it is for an image
of who we believe
we must be
to not be judged
as someone whom
we do not wish
to be judged as.
Having vs Realizing Empathy
Having empathy
is fine
if what you have
is what you need.
Realizing empathy
is necessary
when what you have
is not what you need.
Having vs Acquiring a Choice
People say
“You always have
a choice!”
No.
You always have
options.
You don’t always have
a choice.
Choices
sometimes have to be acquired
through learning,
discovering,
or creating.
The Moment
There is a moment
when someone who judged leaders
for being unworthy
faces a challenge where they themselves feel
like they have no other choice,
but to become just like them.
At this juncture, we can judge
that we have no choice,
or we can perspective we need
that will allow us to see the situation
in a different way,
where we discover or create choices
we did not know
we had
Answers
“I want answers!”
he shouted,
in frustration.
“…”
“Did you hear me???”
he lowered his voice.
“I
want
answers!”
he shouted again.
“I have no answers.”
a response came back.
He stared at me,
breathing heavily.
“All I can do
is help you discover
what it is
you’re willing to take
responsibility for.”
Culture vs Strategy
Peter Drucker
never said
culture
eats strategy
for breakfast.
A great strategy
without a great culture
to
But a great culture
without a great strategy
isn’t great,
either.
Problem Solving vs Creating
If you hope
to get what you want,
frame it as a problem
to solve.
If you hope
to get what you didn’t know you wanted,
frame it as a paradox
to be dissolved.