When it seems like
“others”
are doing something
“wrong,”
we may eventually realize
empathy
to discover
that they may only be doing “wrong”
what you
want them to do
while simultaneously doing “right”
what they themselves
want to do.
Category: Short Form
Lowering Expectation vs Discovering Value
It is often said
that the key to happiness
is lowering
expectations.
Perhaps
sometimes it is.
But in others times
when we learn to respect
we can discover
or create value
from what we took for granted,
what we once assumed
too mundane
or worthless
I wouldn’t have
“if I were them,
I wouldn’t have done that”
The focus
lies on the behavior.
Behaviors
are mere symptoms
of our intention to
fulfill our needs
or to realize our values
as directed.
The question is whether we would behave differently
had we the same intentions, needs, and values.
Deadline
What I learned in art
is that the work gets done
because there’s an exhibition.
Without an exhibition
the artist can work on their piece
until they’re perfect.
Except
compared to perfection
the work
is never be enough.
The role of an exhibition
is to force us to define
what is “enough.”
To Lose
Its easy to judge
losing
as “bad.”
As long as we love someone
or something
we will eventually
lose them.
The only way not to lose
is to never
love.
What we often forget
is that while we love
because we have yet to lose
we dont
appreciate.
And only appreciate
after we have lost.
Delegation
When we delegate
we think
we are delegating
our tasks.
But we are also delegating
our values.
What we consider important.
How we make decisions.
How we prioritize.
Delegating mere tasks
without values
may end
with you blurting out
the good ol’ saying
If you want something done right,
do it
yourself.
Making a Choice
Sometimes
we hear people say
“But I cannot simply choose
to be some way!”
Indeed.
Making a choice
does not mean change
is necessarily
imminent.
It merely signifies
the first step
of a journey.
But a journey
with a commitment.
A journey
with intention.
A journey
that starts by us taking
responsibility.
Whole vs Real
Our experiences
are real
and valid.
Our perspectives
are real
and valid.
Our perceptions
are real
and valid.
But none of them
are the whole.
VUCA + ALOS
When there is
volatility,
there is likely to be
anxiety.
When there is
uncertainty,
there is likely to be
loneliness.
When there is
complexity,
there is likely to be
overwhelm.
When there is
ambiguity,
there is likely to be
shame.
Winning
For some reason,
“winning“
has become a dirty word
in business.
Perhaps what’s needed
is a clear discernment
between winning
a zero sum game,
vs playing our own game,
where “winning“
is not defined
as zero sum.