To Lose

Its easy to judge
losing
as “bad.”

As long as we love someone
or something
we will eventually
lose them.

The only way not to lose
is to never
love.

What we often forget
is that while we love
because we have yet to lose
we dont
appreciate.

And only appreciate
after we have lost.

Beyond Responsibility

“I want to achieve
peace in my family.”

“I want my team members
to be happy.”

“I want …”

While these can be goals,
aspirations,
or expectations,
they cannot be
our responsibility.

Not because we don’t care
or because we have no influence,
but because
responsibility
does not equal
outcome.

What is within our responsibility
is to do our best.

Sometimes our best
does not yield
an outcome
we find satisfying.

Our responsibility lies
is what response we choose
in relation to the outcome
we do not find satisfying.

Semantics

Oftentimes
all we disagree on
is the definition
of a word.

If we are willing to use
the other persons definition
we may agree
if we are unwilling
then we disagree.

The question then beceoms
what are we afraid would happen
if we let the other person
use their definition?

Willingness to Take Responsibility

“What if he doesn’t accept
my apology?” asked the CEO.

“His response
is his responsibility.
The question I’m asking
is what responsibility
are you willing to take?” I remarked.

“My responsibility?” he asked.

“Yes,
whether your apology
is accepted or not,
which is within his ability
to respond,
thus his response-ability
and his choice,
are you willing to choose apology
simply because
it is within your response-ability?” I replied.

“…
I am.” he replied.

“Why?” I probed.

“It’s funny.
I don’t know why,
but just thinking about it
makes me feel healed.” he reflected.

Delegation

When we delegate
we think
we are delegating
our tasks.

But we are also delegating
our values.

What we consider important.
How we make decisions.
How we prioritize.

Delegating mere tasks
without values
may end
with you blurting out
the good ol’ saying
If you want something done right,
do it
yourself.

VUCA + ALOS

When there is
volatility,
there is likely to be
anxiety.

When there is
uncertainty,
there is likely to be
loneliness.

When there is
complexity,
there is likely to be
overwhelm.

When there is
ambiguity,
there is likely to be
shame.

Winning

For some reason,
“winning“
has become a dirty word
in business.

Perhaps what’s needed
is a clear discernment
between winning
a zero sum game,
vs playing our own game,
where “winning“
is not defined
as zero sum.