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Solidarity vs Attack & Defense
There is strength together
and strength against
when you communicate in a way
that provokes defense in the other
despite your best intentions
that will be strength against
which backfires
when you use strength together
to inspire solidarity
that does something radically different
We tend to think
we have to show our strength
to lead
Sometimes
What’s more clear
is that the more we show our strength
the less other people imagine
that we’re human.
That we can be vulnerable
And the less we seem human
less they see us as one of them.
Vision vs Happiness
May we not confuse
having a vision
to maintain directionality
and having a vision
to head toward
happiness.
It is possible
that realizing a vision
will not make us
happy.
It is possible
we can be happy
without realizing
any vision.
Leading
When we use the word
lead
let us be clear
what it is
we are leading.
If we are leading
people.
Then let us be explicit
that what we mean by
lead
Is leading
people.
Not money.
Not decisions.
Not strategies.
People.
Yes,
we need
money
decisions
strategies
to lead
people.
But those are the means
not the end.
May we remebmer that.
The Cycle
I want you
to be happy.
I want you
to be happy.
Don’t you know
that I do?
Why don’t you know
that I do?
What must I do
so you’ll know?
Why must you
continue
to hurt me?
Intent vs Impact
Sometimes
we hear from the very people
to whom we intentionally express
our appreciation
that we don’t appreciate them
enough.
Let us not confuse
our intent to appreciate
with our impact.
Want vs Surprise
Getting what we want
is not always
what we want.
What we want
is sometimes
to feel surprised.
And rarely will we feel surprise
by fixing
what we don’t want.
Easy Like
I’ve noticed
that one of the easiest ways to get likes
is to say something that make people feel heard.
One
of the easiest ways to make people feel heard
is to bad mouth people
they don’t feel heard by.
Judging employees as lazy
may fulfill the bosses need to feel heard.
Judging bosses as toxic
may fulfil the employees need to feel heard.
Bu this only creates divide.
To go beyond this
is the challenge we face.
Misunderstanding Sacrifice
There are times
when we judge others
as wanting us
to sacrifice for them.
And yet,
when we ask
we may realize
that what they actually want
is what is best
for us.
Big Dream & Incremental Progress
May we dream big
even seemingly impossible
dreams.
But then to make steps toward it
may we
do only as much as we can take responsibility
The smallest simplest yet heaviest
burden we CAN carry.
Otherwise,
we bite more than we can chew
as we get in over our heads.
Or
if we cannot carry the burden
may we have the courage
to admit our inability to take the responsibility
alone
and ask for help.
Firing & Nurting
When someone
underperforms
we can let them go
or support them
toward better performance.
But supporting them
because we’re afraid of the conflict
that may ensure in the process of separation
breeds impatience
frustration.