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Labels vs Actions
A “leader”
is merely
a label.
What matters
is whether we
lead
regardless
of the label.
Not whether we call ourselves
or others
leaders
Mobility
When tension amounts
it introduces stiffness,
aches,
and knots,
which impacts
our mobility.
It isn’t
that we are merely unwilling
to change our position,
but that changing positions
is hard
due to stiffness,
aches,
and knots.
Help us relieve our tension
and we will naturally change
positions.
Aligning Intention with Impact
May we
start
with the intention
to help
others.
But before helping,
may we put down
some of the weight we’re carrying
—even if temporarily—
especially the one,
where we feel responsible
for the other’s
happiness,
to affords us the ability
to share
the other person’s weight
by supporting them
instead of taking their weight
away
from them.
After helping,
appreciate their gratitude
instead of ignoring
or trivializing them.
Know, Not Know
I don’t know,
so I suck.
I know,
so I rock.
I don’t know,
so I create.
First When and Where
“Something important happened!”
she said.
“Can I get back to you?
I’m in the middle of something.”
I answered.
“Oh, yeah.
It can wait.”
she answered.
…
“Something important happened!”
she said.
“Can I get back to you?
I’m in the middle of something.”
I answered.
“No, it’s urgent!”
she answered.
“Oh, ok.
Can you hold just a minute
I’ll excuse myself
and go to another room.”
I answered.
…
Re-
What is an unrealistic
expectation?
People who never
cheat
make mistakes
betray
All of the above
are part
of the human
condition.
But so is
foregiveness
recover
Dangers of Compassion
The ills of the world
may be easier to handle
were they manifestations
of mere malicious intentions.
What make is complex
is that most
are inspired by compassion
Conform or Rebel
When people judge us
as “empathic,”
as “nice,”
as “smart,”
etc.
We tend to conform
or rebel.
Conform
as in believing that we are.
Rebel
as in “No, I’m not.”
May we learn the choice
to simply understand
and appreciate.
Rejection
What cold outreach taught me
was that what people are doing
is not rejecting me.
What they are doing
is saying things to me.
It is I who choose
to interpret their words
as rejection
or as something else.
From their perspective,
they may be feeling misunderstood
take advantage of, etc…
Listening
Some psychologists
claim they know
how to listen.
Perhaps.
But I learned to listen
not from psychologists,
but from artists.
Craftsmen
listening to their materials
Actors
listening to
Musicians.
If one thinks
they know how to listen
as psychologists do,
we are missing so much of it.
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