The Feeling of Support

While we may think
that we’re providing autonomy
for the employees’ benefit,
our employees
can actually feel
left alone
without support.

While we may think
that we’re expressing our concern
for the company’s benefit
our employers
can actually feel
uncared for
without support.

Support
is an event.

Just
as the confidence of an engineer
does not guarantee
whether the structure they built
is supportive,
our intention to support
does not guarantee
that support
happens.

Mattering

What’s crushing
is less the hurdle
or challenge,
no matter how insurmountable
they may seem.

What’s crushing
is the feeling
that our actions
don’t matter,
that our efforts
don’t matter,
that we
don’t matter.

That we are helpless.
That it is hopeless.

Receiving and Giving vs Being and Creating

May we ask
whether we desire
being
and creating with someone
or giving to
and receiving from them.

The more we want to give to,
or receive from someone,
the harder it can become
to be
or to create with them.

Being
or creating with someone
requires being present,
without expectation,
suspending our need
to fulfill a need,
and instead
letting emergence guide us
through uncertainty.

Validation vs Vengefulness

Sometimes
the challenge
is less believing in ourselves
and more believing in others
who believe in us.

Sometimes
our craving for validation
is not mere craving
for validation
but craving validation
from specific someone
or group of people
because we do not deem enough
the validations we’ve already
received.

Sometimes
what we crave
is not mere validation
but revenge
born out of the desire
to prove certain people
wrong.

I Envision

I
envision a world,
where each and every one of us,
from the moment we’re born
until the day we die
can feel certain
there’s at least one person
we can reach out to
at any given moment
who can and will support us
in a way
that actually makes us feel
supported.

Hamster Wheel

It’s easy to think
that the things
other people want us to do
are more important
than what we want to do.

It can seem
that doing what we want to do
is selfish and bad
while doing what others want us to do
is altruistic and good.

And yet,
we are the proverbial “other people”
to somebody else.

May we pause
to deeply wonder
what it is we’re doing
and ask ourselves
the wonderous question
of “why?”

Why have we prioritized
certain tasks
over others?

May we live life
as the wonderous
and paradoxical
mystery
that it is
instead
of merely a series of problems
to be solved
,
otherwise
our lives
can easily turn into something
akin
to a hamster wheel.

The 3Ss

Imagine
a tight rope
walker.

Without
a net on the ground
for the future,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
safe.

Without
a supportive rope
in the present,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
stable.

Without
sufficient preparation
prior,
it can be difficult for her
to feel
secure.

When we feel
hesitant
or vulnerable,
it may be useful
to ask ourselves
which of the 3
is missing,