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3 Levels of Tension
Low tension
Creative tension
Destructive tension
is where tension ha sustained
Easily Confused
More is not enough
Less is not lack
Addictiveness of Power
It’s easy
to judge others
for getting addicted
to power.
And yet,
once someone realizes
that what power gives us
is the potential
to never have to expose
our vulnerabilities,
to never have to feel
such unpleasant
emotions,
as shame
and embarrassment
it’s not too difficult to image
why anyone
would not wish to let go
to not get addicted
hard to blame anyone
for not wanting to lose
that way.
A way
called “power.”
Managing “Up”
Lack of experience
can allude us to think
that there is such a thing
as managing “up.”
Just as we eventually learn
that our parents
need our support
just as we need theirs,
what we misunderstand as “up”
What we eventually learn
is that “up” is an illusion.
Once we realize
that parents manage us
primarily because of the conern
they feel
we can proactively manage them
by alleviating their concern
Age
As we age
we may realize
that what we once considered
“old“
is “young”,
while what we once considered
“young”
is younger.
Being vs Having
Sometimes
we speak
as if we are
others.
“I am sad”
vs
“I am feeling sadness”
“I am a CEO”
vs
“I play the role of a CEO”
“I am fit”
vs
“I have a fit body”
Perhaps we speak this way
out of habit.
Perhaps we speak this way
when we hyper-empathize.
No matter the reason,
it’s worth creating
distinctions
and boundaries with them,
so we can empathize.
Lowering Expectation vs Discovering Value
They say
the key to happiness
is lowering
expectations.
Choosing to let go
of what we wish
to see.
Perhaps
sometimes.
But at others times
we can also experience happiness
by discovering
or creating value
through respecting.
By learning the choice
to see what is already there
in a new way.
from what we took for granted,
what we once assumed
too mundane
or worthless
Not Caring
It is not
that I do not care
about them.
I do.
It is that
I am confident
I can recover
the relationship
or recover from
the relationship.
That even if I do something
they wont like
I trust
that they care about me
just as I care about them
for our relationship
to sustain.
Otherwise
we are merely conforming
walking on eggshells
Asking for Advice
Sometimes,
we need to ask for advice
on how to solve
our problems.
Before asking,
it may be worth getting clear on:
- What the current situation is,
- Where you’re trying to move to,
- What you believe are required
to make such a move, - What you’ve already done
to fulfill those requirements,
and having done them, - What you see
are the remaining problems.
Beyond Curiosity
There is curiosity.
Then there is
wonder.
What wonder has
that curiosity does not
is a sense
of surprise
or awe.
While curiosity
can diminish
when knowledge
is acquired,
wonder
remains.
When it comes
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201412/study-wonder