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Easy to Say
It’s easy to tell others
“be humble.”
Until you experience a moment,
when it feels as if “being humble”
will bring about
your own demise.
It’s easy to tell others
“listen.”
Until you experience a moment,
when you feel so unheard
that you want the other person to listen
first.
It’s easy to tell others
“appreciate.”
Until you experience a moment,
when what you appreciate
is not what they want to feel appreciated
for.
Disagreements
When disagreeing
it may be important to recognize
that we need not take responsibility
for someone else’s choice.
If the disagreement is because we feel like well have to take responsibility
for someone elses choice,
then make that clear,
I choose to support you on your decision
provided you make clear that you will take responsibility
for the consequences.
Choice vs Judgment
If we’re nice
we’ll get burned one day.
Then we may decide
no longer
to be nice
Then we’ll get burned one day
for not being nice
May we not let our hurt
dictate our destiny
May we learn to choose
by being present
in the moment
Nuance of the Unconditional
Why do we play?
Is it really because it’s fun?
We play
just because
There’s no reason
It’s unconditional.
But that doesn’t mean
we may not feel resentment
when someone doesn’t recirprocate
unconditional is not a moral good
or some self-sacrifice
Unconditional
is simply natural
and enjoyable
in the moment
Naming
If psychologists
can name
our experience
so can anybody.
If so,
may we name it
in such a way
that we feel more curious
about it
as if to take interest
in a pet
or a friend.
Someone
we are more likely
to spend the time and energy
required
to learn to understand
and appreciate.
Possession
The moment we realize
what we made
came
through us
not
from us
may also be the moment
where we start to be
with
them
not
for tham.
Doing Enough
There is a difference between
wondering if there is something you cannot see
vs if you are not doing enough.
Whether youre doing enough or not
is a matter of amount
Whether you can see or not is black and white
If you cannot see something
you can do enough work
and still be working on
the “wrong” thing.
Burden
The burden of responsibility
is only heavy
while we delay
our response.
Lowering Expectation vs Discovering Value
They say
the key to happiness
is lowering
expectations.
Choosing to let go
of what we wish
to see.
Perhaps
sometimes.
But at others times
we can also experience happiness
by discovering
or creating value
through respecting.
By learning the choice
to see what is already there
in a new way.
from what we took for granted,
what we once assumed
too mundane
or worthless
Depression
“What did depression
feel like?”
the counselor asked me.
“It felt…
meaningless.” I responded.