Irony is when we judge others as lacking empathy

One
of the most powerful motivators
can be our need
to prove we are right.

One
of the most power transformations
can start
when we are proven wrong.

Sometimes
that which prevents us
from realizing empathy
is our desire
to change the world
for the better.

One
of the easiest things
to confuse
are
strength
vs
numbness.

A vision
is supposed to be
unclear.

Gaze upon a mountain
far ahead
in the distance.

How much detail
do you see?

How much difference
will be there
between our vision of the mountain
and the mountain
when we arrive
at the top?

Our vision
becomes clearer
as we get closer.

The person
whose love,
validation,
and respect we need
is often also the person
whose need for love,
validation,
and respect
we neglect
to appreciate
or understand fully.

When they
do not fulfill our expectations,
we may say
they
have an attitude problem.

When we
do not fulfill other’s expectations,
we may still say
they
didn’t set clear expectations.

Sometimes,
we need to feel trusted
by others
first
before we can trust
ourselves.

Sometimes,
we need to be shown hope
by others
first
before we can see hope
ourselves.

Sometimes,
we need to feel loved
by others
first
before we can love
ourselves.

There are times
when we cannot reconcile
the conflict between
what is right
for us
and what is right
for them.

A paradox.

This is a place,
where we may recognize
what is right for others,
but feel stuck
because what is right for us
seems negated
by their’s.

Let us learn the choice
to give and receive support
in this place.

A place
of struggle.

Support
that can help us all realize empathy
so we can finally see
where it is
we previously did not look
and respect it
so as to let
the paradox dissolve
and give rise
to a new way
of being
together.

“Can you hear the time?”
asked the art teacher.

“What??”
he responded,
bewildered.

“The time.
Can you hear it?”
she asked again.

“What the hell
are you talking about?!”
he asked,
now annoyed.

“…”
she paused.

“Can you tell me what time it is
without looking at your watch.”
she eventually spoke again.

“No.
I can’t.”
he replied,
indignantly.

“Just a few moments ago,
the church bell rang
to indicate noon.
If you want to make art,
I want you to learn
to be present enough
to hear that.”
she replied.

If responsibility
is response + ability —
as in our ability to respond
to a given situation —
then
it is only human
that when we experience too much tension,
our responsibility
gets hampered,
the range of our responsibility
gets diminished.

Others
may wish to hold us accountable
or our own sense of duty and obligation
may haunt us,
but neither
helps us recover
our hampered
responsibility
or restore
our range
of responsibility.

To take responsibility
back,
our tension
has to be released.