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3 Levels of Tension
Low tension
Creative tension
Destructive tension
is where tension ha sustained
Having vs Acquiring a Choice
People say
“You always have
a choice!”
No.
You always have
options.
You don’t always have
a choice.
Choices
often have to be acquired
through learning,
discovering,
or,
creating.
Appreciating best
To appreciate our best
sometimes requires us to let go
of our tendency to judge our best not by I our best
by external best.
Not Feeling
Why talk about unpleasant things
when we dont have enough time
for pleasant things
is often an effective way
of numbing ourselves
from experiencing
then processing the unplesant emotions
which provides insight into what is really going on
They’re doing it wrong
When it seems like
“others”
are doing something
“wrong,”
we may eventually realize
empathy
to discover
that they may only be doing “wrong”
what you
want them to do
while simultaneously doing “right”
what they themselves
want to do.
Playing to Win vs Playing to Lose
Start with the win
then work your way
back.
OTherwise
you can get stuck
wondering how you can
not lose.
Assume winning
is inevitable,
then come up with an explanation
that supporrs
that is worth a shot
Burden
The burden of responsibility
is only heavy
while we delay
our response.
Need for Validation and Fear of Not receiving validation
There is a world of difference
between having a need for validation
and judging
that we are not worthy
of validation
Top-Of-Mind
There’s often a task
at the top
of our mind.
A task
often related
to something with which
we hyper-empathize.
Thus,
intimately related
to our sense
of self-worth.
Until that task
makes sufficient
progress,
such that our need
for safety,
stability,
or security
is fulfilled,
our mind
can get constantly distracted,
reducing
our productivity
and focus.
May we become aware
of what that is
and respond
accordingly.
Gift Giving
Some give gifts
based on their projection
of value.
Something expensive
Something rare
Something ??
The receiver appreciates gifts
based on what they value
but have difficulty attaining.
Something they wouldnt pay that much for
Something