Irony is when we judge others as lacking empathy

You didn’t create
unless the form of the output
was unexpected.

If it was,
then you were manufacturing.

Nothing wrong with either,
but it can be frustrating
if you enter the manufacturing process,
with the desire to create
or if you enter the creative process,
with the desire to manufacture.

It’s easy to acknowledge luck
when its credit
is not tied
to our self-worth.

It’s hard to acknowledge luck
when its credit
is tied
to our self-worth.

When someone gives us
an apology
we need to receive,
the load of a burden we’ve been carrying
becomes shared
with the person
who gave
the apology.

When someone accepts
our apology
we need accepted,
the load of a burden we’ve been carrying
becomes​ shared
with the person
who accepted
the apology.

To find out
with whom
or what
you’re hyper-empathizing,
notice how you react
when things
or people
other than your “self”
are threatened.

If your goal
is to lift weights,
you can achieve that goal
by lifting weights.

But for your muscles to develop
you must put the weights down
and help your muscles
recover.

Without recovery
you may achieve,
achieve,
and achieve
with minimal development
while promoting fatigue
and injury.

What if
our psychology
and our relationships
were like muscles?

Happiness
is something
we already have.

If we don’t feel it
it’s because we only feel it
when we see it
with appreciation.

We often learn this
after
we’ve lost it.

As we all of a sudden
remember
having seen it
without appreciation.

All the while,
appreciating it now
since we have lost it.

When a decision
leads to something
“bad,”
we call it
“wrong.”

Until the same decision
leads to something
“good.”

Then
we call it
the “best.”

To notice
our greed
…
we can make
a strict promise
on exactly when it is
we will feel like
it’s enough,
then watch ourselves
break
that promise.

“Why didn’t you
tell me?”
I asked.

“I didn’t want
to be a burden.”
she responded.

…

“But what if
you had died?”
was the question
I never asked.

“Have you ever thought
about the guilt
that I would have had
to live with?”
was the resentment
I never expressed.

“In your desire
to be a good mother
you could have made me
a bad son.”
was the blow
I never threw.

…

“You’re not my mother
because you’re not
a burden.”
was the acknowledgment
I never made.

“You’re my mother
because you are.”
was the tear
I never shed.

“I love you.”
was the honesty
I never expressed.

One way
we can realize empathy
with what we previously could not
is to search
for a metaphor.

If “I would not do
what they did
if I were in their situation,”
signals
an absence
of a metaphor.

Then “In what situation
would I do
what they did?”
signals
a search
for a metaphor.