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Coaching Employees
“Can you coach
one of our team members?”
asked the CEO.
“Only
if you’re willing to accept
the consequences.”
I responded.
“Consequences?”
he asked.
“That they may become
so empowered
that they finally work up
the courage
required to leave
your company.”
I answered.
Choice & Responsibility
We often worry
whether the choices we make
may be right
or wrong.
The problem is
that we will never know.
Not because we wont know
after time has past.
But because as time goes by
more things will happen
that we may credit
or blame for our choices.
Given this,
the challenge may not be
making the right
or wrong choices,
but rather
developing the responsibility,
as in our ability to respond,
to the ever so complex situations we face
having made the choice.
I suffered, so…
One way
in which our thoughts
and behaviors
are guided,
is the belief
that since I suffered,
either
you should also
or you should not.
It’s easy to judge
one to be better
than the other
But the nuance
is that our it may be more effective
to let our suffering be our suffering
and let others decide for their own
and take responsibiltiy
for their choices
Easy vs Ease
Easy
may not be a choice
that can be learned.
But you can be
at ease.
Balancing vs Fixing
When we identify
a mistake,
it may be tempting
to permanently fix
so that we may never make the same
mistake.
Except,
if we do that
we also make it impossible
that the context in which
that previous “mistake”
ie beneficial
from happening.
An alternative
Is to balance
so that we never fix
but allow room
for both.
Paradox
When we hit the limit
of our current maturaion
we will always confront
a paradox
And we may not even recognize the paradox
because we would have jumpted to judgment
to squash the discomfort
of paradox
Presence
I used to think
we cannot be present
with the future
or the present.
But I learned
from woodworking
is that when a table saw
is whirring in front of you,
you have no choice,
but to be present.
The table saw
was
at that moment
undoubtedly the most important thing
to pay attention.
To be present with something
may be bring it to the present
by writing those thoughts down
Handle vs Solve
There is handling
between handling a situation
and attempting to solve it.
The latter judges
Wonder vs Passion
Passion,
by definition,
includes suffering.
We may allow passion
to guide us
We may also allow
wonder
to guide us
Ambition
There are those
with the ambition
to change
the world.
I just want
to make my mother
happy.