of “wisdom” is “ weid-,” “to see.”
realize empathy, we connect our experience with that of another.
we did not know to connect.
And it is in that instant,
we come to see something we previously did not.
Steve is right that creativity is coming to see something others could not by connecting experiences, then perhaps realizing empathy is creativity imbued with the wisdom of love.
he cultivated a company culture that motivated me and brought out my best.
I thought he was the father I never had.
I was motivated
not to work hard, but to get his _love_ instead of my father’s.
Because it was easier.
all it required was to work hard.
was not enough for my father.
the culture didn’t block me from seeking his love, but it wasn’t the culture that motivated me or brought out my best.
whose love, validation, and respect we need is often also the person whose need for love, validation, and respect we neglect to appreciate or understand fully.
we need to feel trusted by others first before we can trust ourselves.
we need to be shown hope by others first before we can see hope ourselves.
we need to feel loved by others first before we can love ourselves.
“Lights On” / Seung Chan Lim (Slim) / March 20, 2020 / North Columbus Dr., Chicago, IL
for each other
with their lights on,
with nary a guarantee
of the future,
will get through this.
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of the most common emotions
In the presence
it’s sometimes worth asking
whether our time
is best spent
on what we hate
what we love.
we may only have enough time
who or what we love
who or what we hate.
the lack of time
isn’t always obvious
until we explore
we may not even realize
that we are experiencing
until we realize empathy
Love is a force that can hold the space between “self” and “other.”
Relationship is the quality of space between “self” and “other.”
Being in love with an “other,”
and having a good relationship with them
are two different issues.
Whether the “other” is people, work, things, etc…
You can be in love with them,
and not have such a wonderful relationship. You can have a wonderful relationship with them,
and not be in love.
Let us not confuse concern with love.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling concern for the people we love. At the same time, concern arises out of fear, not love. Yes, concern can be fueled by care, but care is not love.
It’s worth asking ourselves if desires like “I want my employees to perform better” or “I want my students to be successful,” are born out of fear or love.
The kinds of design that emerge out of repressed and unidentified fear can be unhelpful to others at best and harmful at its worst.