What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
What we do for our survival
isn’t selfish
it’s natural
and normal.
Others might not like it
but it doesn’t make it
selfish
When we help,
we don’t realize we’re focused
on our own pain and discomfort
but it is when and only when
we can relieve ourselves of tension
and be present enough with our pain and discomfort
to have room in our being
to be with another person’s pain and discomfort
that we can serve
and the byproduct of that is we feel fulfilled
but our fulfillment is not the focus
I will ask for feedback
once I’m ready.
No.
You become ready
by getting feedback.
“How selfish
could you be
to take
your own life?”
he asked.
“What about those
you leave behind?”
he continued
“You don’t
understand.
Im doing this
for them.”
she responded.
We say
“kids
learn so much more quickly.”
…
What if
a major difference
between kids
and adults
is that the latter
self-judges
or self-criticizes,
while the former
does not?
There’s often a task
at the top
of our mind.
A task
often related
to something with which
we hyper-empathize.
Thus,
intimately related
to our sense
of self-worth.
Until that task
makes sufficient
progress,
such that our need
for safety,
stability,
or security
is fulfilled,
our mind
can get constantly distracted,
reducing
our productivity
and focus.
May we become aware
of what that is
and respond
accordingly.
What if
all we’re trying to do
all our lives
is find a sign
that tells us
that we are worthy
of living?
That there is this
feeling of shame
that we wish to erase
of having ever been born
at all.
It may be
that when we admit our fear
of death,
we value our loved ones
so much more
than the perception of others
that we decide to do things
without caring too much
what others think.
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20160208-why-contemplating-death-changes-how-you-think
An empathic conversation
is a conversation
where two things happen
1. you feel heard
2. you see what you could not see before
Managing individuals
is different
from managing a system.
Its easy to confuse
system
with infrastructure
To better understand,
imagine managing a garden
instead of managing a machine
Why talk about unpleasant things
when we dont have enough time
for pleasant things
is often an effective way
of numbing ourselves
from experiencing
then processing the unplesant emotions
which provides insight into what is really going on
