What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
When someone
is striving toward a goal,
dissuading them from the goal
can be the very definition
of being
unsupportive.
We can rationalize why
we are right
to dissuade them.
We may even argue
that it’s for their own
good.
What doesn‘t change—
until their goal changes—
is that we are perceived
as unsupportive
to them,
and thus perceived
to not be
on the same
team.
Making mistakes
is often times the only way
to learn.
you are able to achieve
without learning
but when what you didnt learn
because you were busy achieving
becomes relevant
unless you know what to look for
you will make the mistake and learn from it
Think of the “self”
as possibilities.
What will arise in the moment
as “self”
may be contingent upon
numerous variables
not the least of which
is our judgment
of what is right
vs
wrong.
There are things
to be achieved.
Then there are things
to be discovered.
When we confuse something
that needs to be discovered
with something that needs
to be achieved
we may achieve
only to wonder
why it feels
insufficient.
Because what is to be discovered
cannot be known
before the discovery
while achievement assumes
the exact
opposite.
Sometimes
instead of telling someone
to “do this,”
asking them
if they would be willing
to “do this,”
or if they would be against
“doing this”
may be all that is required
to foster collaboration
as opposed
to compliance.
We need not always
know
before we
do.
In fact,
knowing
can sometimes prevent us
from doing the very thing
that will help us learn
what we need
to know.
Sometimes
we wonder to ourselves
why we have to make mistakes
to learn what others
already seem
to know.
Without realizing
that they, too,
may have had to make
the same mistakes,
just earlier than us.
Or that they have yet to learn,
but merely come across
as if they’ve learned
given the luck
and grace
of their circumstances.
We sometimes
take on the burden
of someone‘s expectations
while that someone
is proactively making an effort
to not expect.
May we become aware
that doing so
can be to disrespect
that person‘s efforts
because of our own inability
to trust the sustainability
of that person‘s
efforts.
When confronted
with daunting distance
our desire to complete a race
can cloud our need
to take things
one step
at a time.
Sometimes
we judge ourselves
a workaholic,
because after hours and hours
of work
we still feel
like we should work
more.
But upon reflection,
we may realize
that had our hours and hours
of work
fulfilled our need
to make progress
we may not feel like
we should work
more.