Assumptions
and expectations
can arise
from a place of hope
or judgment.
If we find ourselves
judging ourselves
for having judgments
we may also choose
or learn to choose
to clarify,
accept
and appreciate
the hope we have
Author: Seung Chan Lim
Perfecting or Fearing Failure
There are minor details
that warrant perfection
before release
even if it doesn’t matter
to some.
Then there are major details
that does not warrant perfection
before release
because the point
is to test our fear.
Where failure itself
will be as valuable
as success.
We are often paralyzed
in front of the prospect
of doing the latter.
Past, Present, Future
May we understand
our past self
without acting as one.
May we act
as our present self
without .
May we feel inspired by our future self
without expecting our present
to be one already.
It’s OK
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I raised enough
money.” he said.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I hired enough
experts.” he continued.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I achieved enough
annual revenue.” he let out a sigh.
“I have no more excuses.
All this time,
I have been lying to myself.”
he remarked.
“It’s OK.
We all lie to ourselves
from time
to time.
Easily Confused
More is not enough
Less is not lack
Addictiveness of Power
It’s easy
to judge others
for getting addicted
to power.
And yet,
once someone realizes
that what power gives us
is the potential
to never have to expose
our vulnerabilities,
to never have to feel
such unpleasant
emotions,
as shame
and embarrassment
it’s not too difficult to image
why anyone
would not wish to let go
to not get addicted
hard to blame anyone
for not wanting to lose
that way.
A way
called “power.”
Age
As we age
we may realize
that what we once considered
“old“
is “young”,
while what we once considered
“young”
is younger.
Beyond Responsibility
“I want to achieve
peace in my family.”
“I want my team members
to be happy.”
“I want …”
While these can be goals,
aspirations,
or expectations,
they cannot be
our responsibility.
Not because we don’t care
or because we have no influence,
but because
responsibility
does not equal
outcome.
What is within our responsibility
is to do our best.
Sometimes our best
does not yield
an outcome
we find satisfying.
Our responsibility lies
is what response we choose
in relation to the outcome
we do not find satisfying.
Vulnerability
If to be human
is to support
and to be supported,
we
allow one’s self
to be supported by another person
being fully human
can be hard.
If we do not know what kind of support we need
If we do not think we need support
Asking for Advice
Sometimes,
we need to ask for advice
on how to solve
our problems.
Before asking,
it may be worth getting clear on:
- What the current situation is,
- Where you’re trying to move to,
- What you believe are required
to make such a move, - What you’ve already done
to fulfill those requirements,
and having done them, - What you see
are the remaining problems.