Lost

We are only
lost
in relation to
where we want
to go.

If we don’t know
where we want
to go,
we may instead be
faced with an opportunity
for exploration
and play.

Unless,
of course,
we think we know
where we want
to go,
because we conflate
where we want
to go
with where we think
we should want
to go.

In which case,
we may still feel
“lost.”

Vengefulness

Vengefulness
can be
a request.

One saying,
“I want you
to empathize.”

“I want you
to empathize
with what it was like
for me to go through
what I went through.”

“I want my experience
to be appreciated,
respected,
and deemed worthy
of attention.”

“I want my experience
to matter.”

Lacking Empathy

“Maybe
I lack empathy.”
remarked the founder.

“Says who?”
I asked.

“My wife.”
he responded.

“When
did she say this?”
I asked.

“Last night.”
he responded.

“Right before she judged you
as lacking empathy,
was she criticizing
something
or someone you deeply
care about?”
I asked.

“Yes,
my mother.
She was criticizing
my mother.
How did you know?”
he remarked.

“I want you to know
that when someone
or something
with which you hyper-empathize
is being attacked
it can be very difficult
for you to empathize
with the attacker.”
I explained.

“That
is a normal
and natural phenomenon.”
I continued.

Respecting vs Expecting

To expect
is to passively await
in our assumed knowledge
of the future.

To respect
is to actively look
at the unappreciated wonders
of the present.

For each thing
we expect,
that inspires within us
anger-related emotions
like frustration
if we respect instead,
what can arise
is power
and confidence.

The kind
that comes from discovering
choices
we did not know
we had.