For What Do We Want to be Appreciated?


Looking to exchange gifts with your co-founder (or spouse)?

Here’s an idea.
Each day, write down one thing they did—that day or long ago—you genuinely appreciated. (Especially if it’s embarrassing to admit.)

On Christmas day,

  1. Agree to not negate or trivialize anything spoken.
  2. Share the list.
  3. Let them ask “How significant is this one and why?”

People have a need to feel appreciated for what they want to be appreciated in the way they want. Merely being appreciated for what we appreciate in the way we want to show appreciation can leave them unfulfilled.

So end by asking, “What one thing do you wish I’d appreciate about what you do and how do you want me to show it?”

May we design our interactions for fulfillment.