Sometimes we ask “Am I doing enough?” Forgetting to ask “Enough to what?” Without the answer to the second question, our sense of progress can be unclear. Once our sense of progress becomes clear, the first question may become unnecessary.
Telling someone who feels stuck to have more patience and grit is akin to telling a drowning person to keep holding their breath. There are times when progress is merely slow. Then there are times when we are stuck. When progress is slow, our direction need not change. Thus, with patience and grit we can prevail. But when we are stuck, we must significantly change direction —even if momentarily. The question is in which direction? To support someone feeling stuck may we be there by their side to help them learn the requisite new choice of direction.
