instead of telling someone
to “do this,”
asking them
if they would be willing
to “do this,”
or if they would be against
“doing this”
may be all that is required
to foster collaboration
as opposed
to compliance.


we wonder to ourselves
why we have to make mistakes
to learn what others
already seem
to know.

Without realizing
that they, too,
may have had to make
the same mistakes,
just earlier than us.

Or that they have yet to learn,
but merely come across
as if they’ve learned
given the luck
and grace
of their circumstances.