When expectation
is fulfilled
there is no
surprise.
When expectation
is violated
there is
surprise
and frustration.
When hope
Is realized
there is
surprise
and gratitude.
When hope
is unrealized
there is no
surprise.
Month: April 2023
Process vs Outcome
When we give advice,
we often offer
an outcome.
“Have courage.”
“Forgive.”
“Be patient.”
…
All outcomes
that arise
from a process.
…
Instead of giving advice,
what if we were to ask
questions?
“What would you need
right now
to feel
courage?”
“What is it
that makes it difficult
for you
to forgive?”
“What pain arises
when you seek to practice
patience?”
Questions
that guide people
through
the process.
Same Team
When someone
is striving toward a goal,
dissuading them from the goal
can be the very definition
of being
unsupportive.
We can rationalize why
we are right
to dissuade them.
We may even argue
that it’s for their own
good.
What doesn‘t change—
until their goal changes—
is that we are perceived
as unsupportive
to them,
and thus perceived
to not be
on the same
team.
Mistake
Making mistakes
is often times the only way
to learn.
you are able to achieve
without learning
but when what you didnt learn
because you were busy achieving
becomes relevant
unless you know what to look for
you will make the mistake and learn from it
Self
Think of the “self”
as possibilities.
What will arise in the moment
as “self”
may be contingent upon
numerous variables
not the least of which
is our judgment
of what is right
vs
wrong.
Achievement vs Discovery
There are things
to be achieved.
Then there are things
to be discovered.
When we confuse something
that needs to be discovered
with something that needs
to be achieved
we may achieve
only to wonder
why it feels
insufficient.
Because what is to be discovered
cannot be known
before the discovery
while achievement assumes
the exact
opposite.