There are leaders
under whom we feel

Not because they want us
but because they focus
on whether we do well
or poorly.

Planting within us the idea
that our job
is to meet their

There are also leaders
under whom we feel

Not only because they need us,
but because they tell us
vulnerably so
they need us.

That they cannot do this
by themselves.

That they need
our help.

Planting within us the idea
that our job
is to be
our best.

Thanks to Connie Chun
who inspired this post.

Fear of Jumping

What if
the fear we feel
at the end of a cliff
is less the fear
of falling
and more
that we will choose
to jump?

That the fear
comes less
from the actual danger
and more
from the lack of faith
in ourselves
to make the right

That we’ll be left
with nobody to blame
but ourselves?


of the most effective ways
to numb
is through pleasure.

If we take pleasure
in our work
it’s as if we are not injured
as a byproduct.

But then
out of the blue
one deep conversation
can pierce through that veil
and outcomes
the pouring of tears.


What’s crushing
is less the hurdle
or challenge,
no matter how insurmountable
they may seem.

What’s crushing
is the feeling
that our actions
don’t matter,
that our efforts
don’t matter,
that we
don’t matter.

That we are helpless.
That it is hopeless.

Validation vs Vengefulness

the challenge
is less believing in ourselves
and more believing in others
who believe in us.

our craving for validation
is not mere craving
for validation
but craving validation
from specific someone
or group of people
because we do not deem enough
the validations we’ve already

what we crave
is not mere validation
but revenge
born out of the desire
to prove certain people