Fear
can inspire behaviors
either too fast
or too slow.
Tag: Leadership
The Big Misunderstanding
The big misunderstanding
is that we’ll be happy
once we have
“it.”
Perhaps
briefly.
Then
it’ll be the same.
The challenge
is to be happy
now.
Not always.
But now.
Then pursue “it,”
simply because it’s fun
to pursue.
I May be Wrong
While one may misunderstand them
to mean the same,
there is a world of difference
between
“I may be wrong,
but I’m willing to take responsibility
if I am.”
vs
“I am right,
and I will prove you
wrong.”
Selfishness
“How selfish
could you be
to take
your own life?”
he asked.
“What about those
you leave behind?”
he continued
“You don’t
understand.
Im doing this
for them.”
she responded.
Managing Up
The folks
whom we neglect the most
in our efforts to manage up
may be
our parents.
The older I get
the more I realize
that they need our support
more than we need their’s.
Validation
At first,
I thought I had to do something huge
for my life
to be worth something.
Until I realized
that doing something huge
would still not be enough
unless I could feel
that it was indeed
worth it.
In other words,
what I was after
was a feeling.
…
Once I realized
that validation
was what I was after,
I noticed I lacked clarity
on whose validation I craved
and why.
…
Once I gained clarity
on whose validation I craved
and why,
it turned out
there were only a handful of people
whose validation
I deeply craved.
So I went to them
one by one
to learn how I can provide them
value,
only to learn
how remarkably simple—
not easy, but simple—
it was
to do so.
It was then
that I realized
that at the end of the day,
the most difficult challenge
wasn’t
earning their validation.
The most difficult challenge
was accepting
that my life can have significant worth
without doing something
huge.
Deadline
What I learned in art
is that the work gets done
because there’s an exhibition.
Without an exhibition
the artist can work on their piece
until they’re perfect.
Except
compared to perfection
the work
is never be enough.
The role of an exhibition
is to force us to define
what is “good enough.”
Asking for Advice
Sometimes,
we need to ask for advice
on how to solve
our problems.
Before asking,
it may be worth getting clear on:
- What the current situation is,
- Where you’re trying to move to,
- What you believe are required
to make such a move, - What you’ve already done
to fulfill those requirements,
and having done them, - What you see
are the remaining problems.
Same vs Different
No two “things”
can ever be
the same.
Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.
So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.
We can argue why they’re not
the same.
We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”
The choice
is ours
and ours only.
May we take responsibility
for our choices.
Method vs Context
Sometimes,
we think our method of communication
sucks.
Maybe.
But before the method
there is
relationship.
It is in the relationship,
where emotions
such as trust
reside.
If the relationship is sound,
the method can matter
less.
If the relationship is unsound
the method