Competence – Realizing Empathy

Partnership – Part 2

Many partnerships
be it co-founders,
spouses,
or others,
end
in not so amicable terms
due a deterioration
of trust
and respect.

Before that happens,
it’s worth asking ourselves
do we even trust
and respect each other
now?

By trust,
I don’t mean considering their competence
reliable.

I mean do we trust
that they’ll be by our side
to support us
when we
are at our worst?

By respect,
I don’t mean
appreciating their competence.

I mean can we see value in them
over
and over
and over again,
at will.

So much so
that we can see this
even when they’re at
their worst.

Enough to remind them
of their own self-worth
that they themselves
have forgotten.

What if
“imposter syndrome”
is less our lack
of competence,
and more our lack
of information
of how others
really
are.

When we work hard
we sometimes
lose
our way.

It’s nobody’s
fault.

When we work hard,
we tend to
focus.

When we focus,
we can
obsess.

When we obsess,
we can get
impatient.

When we get impatient,
we can become
myopic.

When we become myopic,
our priorities
can be decided for us
by our myopia,
instead
of our holistic
vision.

When our decisions
are made for us
by our myopia
instead
of our holistic
vision,
we can feel
lost.

It can be exceptionally hard
to be still
when this happens.

Especially so,
when we feel pressured
by external forces
and the fear of failure
looms large.

So we keep going
despite feeling
lost.