What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
What we do for our survival
isn’t selfish
it’s natural
and normal.
Others might not like it
but it doesn’t make it
selfish
When we help,
we don’t realize we’re focused
on our own pain and discomfort
but it is when and only when
we can relieve ourselves of tension
and be present enough with our pain and discomfort
to have room in our being
to be with another person’s pain and discomfort
that we can serve
and the byproduct of that is we feel fulfilled
but our fulfillment is not the focus
I will ask for feedback
once I’m ready.
No.
You become ready
by getting feedback.
What if
all we’re trying to do
all our lives
is find a sign
that tells us
that we are worthy
of living?
That there is this
feeling of shame
that we wish to erase
of having ever been born
at all.
It may be
that when we admit our fear
of death,
we value our loved ones
so much more
than the perception of others
that we decide to do things
without caring too much
what others think.
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20160208-why-contemplating-death-changes-how-you-think
An empathic conversation
is a conversation
where two things happen
1. you feel heard
2. you see what you could not see before
Managing individuals
is different
from managing a system.
Its easy to confuse
system
with infrastructure
To better understand,
imagine managing a garden
instead of managing a machine
Why talk about unpleasant things
when we dont have enough time
for pleasant things
is often an effective way
of numbing ourselves
from experiencing
then processing the unplesant emotions
which provides insight into what is really going on
With care
and compassion,
I looked at my child
wanting to fix
what may be broke.
Maybe his trousers were unbuckled.
Maybe his socks weren’t up.
Maybe his hairs aren’t combed.
Having realized empathy,
I now appreciate
the fact
that all they saw
was my critical face.
Earning money
because we think it means
“success”
is very different
from earning money
because we feel responsible
for someone to whom
the money
means support.
When people encounter
something new
or unexpected.
Some
will dislike it.
Because it won’t fit
their expectations.
So to reduce their dissonance,
they’ll come up with ways
to make it fit
by suggesting ways
to fix it.
…
But then
some
will like it.
But they’ll be unable
to articulate
why.
Because it won’t fit
their expectations,
either.
The difference
isthe latter group of people
will imagine a context
in which the new will fit
while the former
will try to fix the new
to fit the existing context.
When there is more of the latter group
than the former,
a new genre
a new platform
a new era
begins.
If there is more of the former group
than the latter
a cult classic
is born.
Regardless,
an artist
makes art
that defies evaluation.