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If we’re nice
we’ll get burned one day.

Then we may decide
no longer
to be nice

Then we’ll get burned one day
for not being nice

May we not let our hurt
dictate our destiny

May we learn to choose
by being present
in the moment

Why do we play?
Is it really because it’s fun?

We play
just because

There’s no reason

It’s unconditional.

But that doesn’t mean
we may not feel resentment
when someone doesn’t recirprocate

unconditional is not a moral good
or some self-sacrifice

Unconditional
is simply natural
and enjoyable
in the moment

“How do I retain
my best employees?”
asked the founder.

Equally important is to choose to take responsibility in seeing that your employees are not for us to “retain.” They have a life journey they’re on and it is not up to us to “retain” them. No matter how much progress, meaning, and choice they feel there will come a time when your employee will want to leave. It’s worth reflecting on the deeper fear that is giving rise to the question of and address that more fundamentally.

When we push someone
against the direction of their weight
we feel
resistance.

When we support someone
we push them
against the direction of their weight
and we feel
resistance

There lies
a delicate balance
betweeen
pushing someone
and supporting someone.

“I need to prove that they’re wrong.”
said the CEO.

“Why?”
I asked

“Because I don’t want him to think I’m making an arbitrary decision.”
she responded.

“What do you think will happen if you prove them wrong?”
I asked

“He’ll probably trying to prove he’s right.”
she responded.

And then what?

I’ll prove him wrong again.

Then what?

I guess we’ll go around in circles.

You do realize
that you cannot guarntee you’re right, right?

Yeah, I do.

But nor does he!

True

But you have the power
to make the decision

What have you got to lose
if you simply said
“I may be wrong, but I’d like to make this decision for the following reasons.”

A major challenge
of leadership,
is making the effort required
to realize empathy
first
in relation to people
who may not do the same
with us.

It is a challenge
that can easily build within us
feelings
of resentment
and vengefulness.

Making us wonder why
the world is filled
with such ungrateful people
and how unfair
the world is.

It is normal for us
to deeply

When we find ourselves
particularly judgmental
of others

It may be worth shifting our focus
to articulating
how they make us feel
about ourselves
less
about them.

There are 3
small
yet significant discomforts
with which its worth
getting comfortable

Boredom
Delay
Silence