What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
It can be hard
to validate others
when it seems as though
validating them
means
invalidating
ourselves.
It can be crucial
to ask yourself
whether it is true
that validating others
means
invalidating ourselves,
or
that we simply cannot see
the situation
in such a way
that validatings others
need not mean
invalidating
ourselves.
Sometimes
arrogance
comes from
distrust.
When someone judges us
a “difficult case,”
the difficulty
is experienced by the person
with the judgment
If they had greater skills,
we wouldn’t be difficult anymore.
When others
cannot understand what we’re saying
or doing
we can,
to them,
sound.
‘t their fault.
I couldn’t even understand myself,
so how could I expect more from others?
But then I met people
who understood me
better than I could understand
myself.
Without them
I would not be here.
If you are feeling
depressed and anxious
I want you to know
that it’s not your fault.
Nor is it the fault of those around you.
You sought validation.
Only to realize
that others
think you’re crazy.
…
Here’s the thing.
Both you
and others
are not
wrong.
The reason why others think you’re crazy
is because they cannot
empathize with you.
They cannot empathize with you,
because they don’t know how.
You’re not helping, either,
because you’re not communicating well.
You’re not communicating well,
because you don’t know
what you’re talking about.
You don’t know what you’re talking about,
not because you’re incompetent,
or stupid,
but because you haven’t reflected enough.
That’s not your fault.
When we’re alone,
it’s very easy
to confuse rumination
with reflection.
May we remember
that reflection
requires a particular kind
of relationship.
May we not let others convince us
that we’re crazy.
May we develop a relationship
where we can reflect.
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I don’t know,
so I suck.
I know,
so I rock.
I don’t know,
so I create.
Making mistakes
is often times the only way
to learn.
you are able to achieve
without learning
but when what you didnt learn
because you were busy achieving
becomes relevant
unless you know what to look for
you will make the mistake and learn from it
Think of the “self”
as possibilities.
What will arise in the moment
as “self”
may be contingent upon
numerous variables
not the least of which
is our judgment
of what is right
vs
wrong.
We sometimes say
we partnered up
because our partner’s skills
complemented
our own,
when what we really mean
is that we were afraid
that without our partner’s skills
we would
fail.
When we hyper-empathize
we can conflate
what is in our own best interest
with what is in the best interest
of the other
with which
we hyper-empathize.
That other
maybe our company,
our children,
or any number
of “others.”
When our team
have something they want to do
and we tell them
not to do it,
we may feel satisfied
seeing them
stop.
…
What we may not realize
is that they may be doing it
behind our back.