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It’s easy
to judge others
for getting addicted
to power.

And yet,
once someone realizes
that what power gives us
is the potential
to never have to expose
our vulnerabilities,
to never have to feel
such unpleasant
emotions,
as shame
and embarrassment
it’s not too difficult to image
why anyone
would not wish to let go
to not get addicted
hard to blame anyone
for not wanting to lose
that way.

A way
called “power.”

Lack of experience
can allude us to think
that there is such a thing
as managing “up.”

Just as we eventually learn
that our parents
need our support
just as we need theirs,
what we misunderstand as “up”

What we eventually learn
is that “up” is an illusion.

Once we realize
that parents manage us
primarily because of the conern
they feel
we can proactively manage them
by alleviating their concern

Sometimes
we speak
as if we are
others.

“I am sad”
vs
“I am feeling sadness”

“I am a CEO”
vs
“I play the role of a CEO”

“I am fit”
vs
“I have a fit body”

Perhaps we speak this way
out of habit.

Perhaps we speak this way
when we hyper-empathize.

No matter the reason,
it’s worth creating
distinctions
and boundaries with them,
so we can empathize.

It is not
that I do not care
about them.

I do.

It is that
I am confident
I can recover
the relationship
or recover from
the relationship.

That even if I do something
they wont like
I trust
that they care about me
just as I care about them
for our relationship
to sustain.

Otherwise
we are merely conforming
walking on eggshells

There is curiosity.

Then there is
wonder.

What wonder has
that curiosity does not
is a sense
of surprise
or awe.

While curiosity
can diminish
when knowledge
is acquired,
wonder
remains.

When it comes
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201412/study-wonder

To take responsibility
isn’t to take the blame
it is to take charge
of the situation
by declaring our autonomy.

I yelled at you
for not getting the work done
on time.

What I meant to say
was that Im afraid
to

I

What I meant to say
was that

I

What I meant to say
was that

When we find ourselves
particularly judgmental
of others

It may be worth shifting our focus
to articulating
how they make us feel
about ourselves
less
about them.

Empathy
is not something you either have lots
or lack
it is something that has to be managed
and sometimes realized
in th moement

So much arrogance these days
is folks who claim to be empathic
and are really merely compassionate

Judging what is
right
vs wrong
often gets in the way
of discovering
or creating
a new understanding
and appreciation
that leads us
to realize
empathy.