We have trouble realizing empathy
because we
aren’t aware (even if we may know)
don’t want to (disgust)
or we are too afraid. (fear)
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Advice Giving
There is advice
that is accepted.
Then there is advice
that is rejected.
The former
dissolves the paradox
in the other person’s mind.
The latter
merely solves the problem
as defined
by the advice giver.
Boundary & Distance
Empathy
is why we can connect
across boundaries
and distance.
Connect with people far away
Connect with people’s minds despite the boundary of skin
Connect with our emotions, we’ve stashed deep inside
Connect with our thoughts
Misunderstanding Employees
When employees
frustrate us,
we at least have the option
to either blame their incompetence
or support them
to fully utilize their competence.
When we think they’re disrespecting us
they may simply be stalling trying to satisfy us by doing something on their own instead of simply asking for help
Empathy, the word
The word empathy
was originally invented to explain
why we can feel connected
to something or someone
with whom we perceive to have
distance
or
boundary.
Sometimes
such boundary blurring
or distance closing
can yield positive outcomes
Other times
not so much.
Empathy
is neither good
nor bad.
It is simply
an explanation.
The responsibility lies
with each
and every one of us
Why we sound crazy
When others
cannot understand what we’re saying
or doing
we can,
to them,
sound.
‘t their fault.
I couldn’t even understand myself,
so how could I expect more from others?
But then I met people
who understood me
better than I could understand
myself.
Without them
I would not be here.
If you are feeling
depressed and anxious
I want you to know
that it’s not your fault.
Nor is it the fault of those around you.
You sought validation.
Only to realize
that others
think you’re crazy.
…
Here’s the thing.
Both you
and others
are not
wrong.
The reason why others think you’re crazy
is because they cannot
empathize with you.
They cannot empathize with you,
because they don’t know how.
You’re not helping, either,
because you’re not communicating well.
You’re not communicating well,
because you don’t know
what you’re talking about.
You don’t know what you’re talking about,
not because you’re incompetent,
or stupid,
but because you haven’t reflected enough.
That’s not your fault.
When we’re alone,
it’s very easy
to confuse rumination
with reflection.
May we remember
that reflection
requires a particular kind
of relationship.
May we not let others convince us
that we’re crazy.
May we develop a relationship
where we can reflect.
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Solidarity vs Attack & Defense
There is strength together
and strength against
when you communicate in a way
that provokes defense in the other
despite your best intentions
that will be strength against
which backfires
when you use strength together
to inspire solidarity
that does something radically different
We tend to think
we have to show our strength
to lead
Sometimes
What’s more clear
is that the more we show our strength
the less other people imagine
that we’re human.
That we can be vulnerable
And the less we seem human
less they see us as one of them.
Vision vs Happiness
May we not confuse
having a vision
to maintain directionality
and having a vision
to head toward
happiness.
It is possible
that realizing a vision
will not make us
happy.
It is possible
we can be happy
without realizing
any vision.
Intent vs Impact
Sometimes
we hear from the very people
to whom we intentionally express
our appreciation
that we don’t appreciate them
enough.
Let us not confuse
our intent to appreciate
with our impact.
Easy Like
I’ve noticed
that one of the easiest ways to get likes
is to say something that make people feel heard.
One
of the easiest ways to make people feel heard
is to bad mouth people
they don’t feel heard by.
Judging employees as lazy
may fulfill the bosses need to feel heard.
Judging bosses as toxic
may fulfil the employees need to feel heard.
Bu this only creates divide.
To go beyond this
is the challenge we face.