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“Can you coach
one of our team members?”
asked the CEO.

“Only
if you’re willing to accept
the consequences.”
I responded.

“Consequences?”
he asked.

“That they may become
so empowered
that they finally work up
the courage
required to leave
your company.”
I answered.

Why
do you look
like you have no anxiety
or worry?

asked the founder.

I have anxiety
and worry,
its just that
I can share every single one of them
with my wife

Without her
I’d be nothing.

“My wife
is driving me crazy.”
said the Founder.

“Why?”
I asked.

“She asks me questions.
I give her the answer
and she says she doesn’t want
my answer.”

“Have you ever sent an email
in the middle of the night
to one of your executive team members
not expecting an immediate reply
but because you want to stay on the same page
and if you didn’t tell him now
you may forget?”
I asked

“Sure.”
answered the founder.

Has anyone complained that you’re sending emails late at night
because they thought they had to respond to your email right away?

“Sure. So I told them I don’t want them to answer right away.”
answered the founder.

“What if your wife
is doing the same?”
I asked.

That she’s just sharing because
it matters to her that she shares this
because there may be a time later when this info
not too important now
could matter
and she doesn’t want to have to remember to go all the way back
and share all the background before talking about something she wants to talk about
it’s just a much more efficient use of energy
to maintain updated shared context.

Once upon
a time,
we were not merely an individual,
but a part of our mother.

The physical separation
between
our so-called “self”
and our mother
was not so clear.

Which implies
that “self”
is a learned
and developed concept.

Then the question remains.

What is the platform
that existed prior to the concept

Of self
is the concept of self
standing on

The role of the judge
is to judge
that
is their existential
purpose
they are enough
so long as they judge

For all others
judging is not
their existential
Purpose
and yet
its easy getting stuck
judging

“Do you think
I lack
empathy?”
asked the founder.

“You’re not receiving
enough
support.”
I responded.

“What do you mean?”
asked the founder.

“You’re going to be stressed without support, because you feeel isolated, if you’re isolated, you ahve no room in your being to empathize.

We often put curiosity
up on a pedestal.

Attraction

Wonder

Curiosity

As parents
can sacrifice themselves
in hopes to provide
a better home for their children,
a Founder
can sacrifice themselves
in hopes to provide
a better workplace for their employees.

While seemingly virtuous,
sacrifice
can also be a breeding ground
for resentment.

There are situations
when we have no choice
but to sacrifice,
but in many cases
there are ways
to achieve win-win
be it with children
or employees
by sharing the burden
with them.

The challenge
lies in our willingness
to be vulnerably honest
enough
to be able to ask
for their support.