What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
If we do
or say things
to fulfill a need,
then we form our objects,
organizations,
and rituals
to fulfill that need.
Yet,
the words,
the behaviors,
and the forms of our objects
and organizations
can mislead us,
if we fail to comprehend
and appreciate
the underlying needs
that shaped it.
Tis
how easily
dogma
is born.
When speaking of
others
we ask
how can we motivate them?
When I ask
how do you motivate
yourself?
They say
I dont need
motivation
or I dont wait
for motivation.
What makes you think
others
are different?
Sometimes
we spend so much time and energy
fixing
what we deem
broken
that we miss the opportunity
to create
something wholly
different.
Like that time
when we spent
Sometimes,
we think our method of communication
sucks.
Maybe.
But before the method
there is
relationship.
It is in the relationship,
where emotions
such as trust
reside.
If the relationship is sound,
the method can matter
less.
If the relationship is unsound
the method
When we use the word
lead
let us be clear
what it is
we are leading.
If we are leading
people.
Then let us be explicit
that what we mean by
lead
Is leading
people.
Not money.
Not decisions.
Not strategies.
People.
Yes,
we need
money
decisions
strategies
to lead
people.
But those are the means
not the end.
May we remebmer that.
I want you
to be happy.
I want you
to be happy.
Don’t you know
that I do?
Why don’t you know
that I do?
What must I do
so you’ll know?
Why must you
continue
to hurt me?
Getting what we want
is not always
what we want.
What we want
is sometimes
to feel surprised.
And rarely will we feel surprise
by fixing
what we don’t want.
There are times
when we judge others
as wanting us
to sacrifice for them.
And yet,
when we ask
we may realize
that what they actually want
is what is best
for us.
We often worry
whether the choices we make
may be right
or wrong.
The problem is
that we will never know.
Not because we wont know
after time has past.
But because as time goes by
more things will happen
that we may credit
or blame for our choices.
Given this,
the challenge may not be
making the right
or wrong choices,
but rather
developing the responsibility,
as in our ability to respond,
to the ever so complex situations we face
having made the choice.
Easy
may not be a choice
that can be learned.
But you can be
at ease.
