All experiences
are.
Until we judge them.
Then and only then
may it become
Good or bad,
right or wrong.
All the words we use
mean what we mean.
Until others judge our words
good or bad
right or wrong
Category: Short Form
Expectation
We tend to expect others
to know what they are doing “wrong” to you
then fix it
by themselves.
Sometimes
this expectation
is fulfilled.
Many times,
what you consider “wrong”
is not
from their perspective
especially not
to the same degree.
And even if it is
to fix it by themselves
not only leaves them isolated,
naturally,
but also to do something that doesnt
come naturally.
Be willing to support them
to change the context
Willingness to Take Responsibility
“What if he doesn’t accept
my apology?” asked the CEO.
“His response
is his responsibility.
The question I’m asking
is what responsibility
are you willing to take?” I remarked.
“My responsibility?” he asked.
“Yes,
whether your apology
is accepted or not,
which is within his ability
to respond,
thus his response-ability
and his choice,
are you willing to choose apology
simply because
it is within your response-ability?” I replied.
“…
I am.” he replied.
“Why?” I probed.
“It’s funny.
I don’t know why,
but just thinking about it
makes me feel healed.” he reflected.
Goal vs Vision
Vision
is what you’re looking at
without needing
to reaching it.
Goal
is something
you reach.
You can turn your vision
into a goal,
but you can also focus
on a vision
without making it
a goal,
because focus
gives us direction
and that may be
enough.
Two Stones
When stones enter the tumbler
what’s easy to observe is how smooth
they become
When used as metaphor for people
it may seem like this makes people different
What it actually does is it broadesn our understanding
of somethat
and we
The sharp edges of others no longer feel so sharp,
beucase we know what they mean not merely wahat they say
This isn’t to say that one should tolerate
it merely means beyond tolerance, respect is also valuable.
Care
When we striggle
it’s not necessary a sign that we lack competence
it’s sometimes because we care so much
that we expect more than what we can offer
It’s OK
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I raised enough
money.” he said.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I hired enough
experts.” he continued.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I achieved enough
annual revenue.” he let out a sigh.
“I have no more excuses.
All this time,
I have been lying to myself.”
he remarked.
“It’s OK.
We all lie to ourselves
from time
to time.
Need for Validation and Fear of Not receiving validation
There is a world of difference
between having a need for validation
and judging
that we are not worthy
of validation
Power of Scarcity
Scarcity
Is not
bad.
It is scarcity
that empower us to profess our love
before someone’s
passing.
When we know
we have little time
we do things
we would never do
when time
is abundant.
Best Practice
I want to learn the best practice
he said
Do you?
I asked