Same vs Different

No two “things”
can ever be
the same.

Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.

So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.

We can argue why they’re not
the same.

We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”

The choice
is ours
and ours only.

May we take responsibility
for our choices.

Smile

“I overreacted today.”
said the CEO.

I waited.

“They think
I’m a bad leader.” he continued.

I waited.

“They think
I’m toxic.” he continued.

“I don’t know
why I cannot control this.”
he lamented.

“How could others support you
so that you won’t overreact?”
I asked
finally.

“I don’t know.”
he replied.

“What do you not
want?”
I asked again.

“I want them
to stop saying why my ideas
are bad.”
he said.

“Do you want them
to say your ideas
are good?”
I asked.

“No,
of course not.”
he said.

“What do you want?”
I asked again.

“I…
I just want them
to listen.”
he said,
finally.

Praise

When someone praises us
we are confronted
with our own beliefs.

If we believe
we are worthy of the praise
the praise
is received

If we do not
the praise
is rejected.

The praise
is a mirror

Beyond Responsibility

“I want to achieve
peace in my family.”

“I want my team members
to be happy.”

“I want …”

While these can be goals,
aspirations,
or expectations,
they cannot be
our responsibility.

Not because we don’t care
or because we have no influence,
but because
responsibility
does not equal
outcome.

What is within our responsibility
is to do our best.

Sometimes our best
does not yield
an outcome
we find satisfying.

Our responsibility lies
is what response we choose
in relation to the outcome
we do not find satisfying.