When we find ourselves
particularly judgmental
of others
It may be worth shifting our focus
to articulating
how they make us feel
about ourselves
less
about them.
Author: Seung Chan Lim
Appreciating best
To appreciate our best
sometimes requires us to let go
of our tendency to judge our best not by I our best
by external best.
No matter what I try
The phrase
“No matter what I try”
is a great way to
as if we have taken responsibility
whil
When conversation begins
Conversation begins
When communication yielda
a result in conflict with our expectation
and we had already learnedly the choice
to appreciate the conflictas an opportunity for innovation
3 Discomforts
There are 3
small
yet significant discomforts
with which its worth
getting comfortable
Boredom
Delay
Silence
When I…
When I get that job,
I’ll feel happy.
When I hit $100mm ARR,
I’ll feel happy.
When I exit,
I’ll feel happy.
Hyper Empathizing vs Empathizing
When we hyper empathize,
we think
‘I had the same experience they had.
I made it through
so they can make it,
too.’
Empathizing
says
‘Sure, I had a similar experience
they had,
but what’s more important
is that I commit
to being by your side
while you go through
this painful experience
your on way.
Cards Stacked Against
If to be human
is to be in support
and to be supported
Cards arestacked against being human
we don’t learn how to support others
so despire best intentions, we often hurt them
we dont’ seek out support
either because others suck at supporting us so why both
or we are afraid of being judged as weak or incomptent if we do
Meaningless Phrases
When others have done something
that was genuinely difficult for them,
phrases like
thank you
or I appreciate you
may come across
as meaningless.
May we take a moment
to be specific
on what it is that we appreciate
or what it is that we are grateful
Debt
Gratitude
is not an expression
of indebtedness.
It is an acknowledgmenet
of value.
We need not wait
to be personally indebted to someone
to express gratitude toward them.