Method vs Outcome

When people seek advice,
they’re often seeking
a method.

And yet,
when we give advice,
we often offer
an outcome.

“Have courage.”
“Forgive him.”
“Adopt
a growth mindset.”

What if
what people give
as advice
is actually nothing more
than their judgment of

The Web
is full of advice
on what we need,
unnecessarily overwhelming us
with a sense of lack.

Emotions are not Mutually Exclusive

Many of us
do not feel supported.

Yet
we rationalize
that we should be grateful
for whatever we have.

If such rationalization
leads to self judgment,
shame,
and isolation.

May we realize
that gratitude
is not mutually exclusive
with not feeling supported.

The Chinese character for human
are two strokes
in support of one another.

Human beings need
and deserve support,
no matter their circumstance.

Not Growing

“My employees
are not growing!”
said the founder.

“not growing?
or not meeting your expectations?”
I asked.

Let us start from a place of honesty
instead of judgment

“My boss
is annoying”
said the employee

Is she an annoying person
or is your judgement of her
giving rise
to your annoyance?

Mistakes

I feel so stupid,
how come these people know so much more
than I do?

What if they learned those things
by making mistakes?

What do you mean?

What I’m seeing you do
is stall until you feel like you have everything figure out

The people you’re talking about
aren’t smarter than you,
they just went ahead and did things without waiting to figure everything out.

Difficult to Work

Some people
are difficult
to work with.

We say that
as if difficulty
is abnormal.

Would life be better
if life were easier?

Or is part of what makes life
better
is that it is
difficult?

When we admit
that easy
does not exist
in the absence
of difficulty,
we realize

Partnership

Partnering up
because it would be difficult
to do it
alone
is different from
partnering up
because I don’t think
I can do it
alone.

This isn’t to say
one is good
and the other
is bad.

It is to say
one has to be aware
that there is humility
in the first
and lack of self-confidence
in the other.