Despite best intentions,
what we say
out of care,
concern,
or worry,
can be perceived
as aggression
by others.
Month: March 2020
As Doth a Streetlight
As doth
a streetlight,
being there
for each other
with their lights on,
with nary a guarantee
of the future,
we
will get through this.
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Self-Image vs Identity
Our identity,
is who we are.
No matter what anyone says,
we are
who we are.
Our self-image
is created,
when we let others
or even ourselves
dictate
our identity.
“You’re the athletic one
and your sister
is the smart one.”
“I’m not good
at math.”
“Men don’t cry.”
May we not confuse
our identity
with our
self-image.
After Love or Hate?
One
of the most common emotions
founders discover
within themselves
is vengefulness.
In the presence
of vengefulness
it’s sometimes worth asking
whether our time
is best spent
on what we hate
vs
what we love.
Because sometimes
we may only have enough time
to choose
between
supporting
who or what we love
vs
hurting
who or what we hate.
Except
the lack of time
isn’t always obvious
until we explore
the question.
In fact,
we may not even realize
that we are experiencing
vengefulness
until we realize empathy
with ourselves.
Directionality
In conversation,
a question worth asking
is whether we are attempting
to decrease
or increase
the number of choices
for others.
Depending on the answer,
we can often gauge
whether we are moving
in the direction of fear
or courage.
p.s: Thanks to Paul Pangaro for introducing me to the essay on Ethics and Second-Order Cybernetics that inspired this post.