Love

We say
that when we love someone
we want
what’s best for them.

What we don’t say,
but mean,
is that we may even want to make sure
they get the best.

So much so
that we may personally feel responsible
for giving them the best.

Even if it means making ourselves vulnerable
to feeling ashamed,
when we inevitably realize
that we are unable
to fulfill our responsibility.

Not because we did not
or could not give
enough,
but because our heart knows no limits
on how much
to give them.

Process vs Outcome

When we give advice,
we often offer
an outcome.

“Have courage.”
“Forgive.”
“Be patient.”

All outcomes
that arise
from a process.

Instead of giving advice,
what if we were to ask
questions?


“What would you need
right now
to feel
courage?”

“What is it
that makes it difficult
for you
to forgive?”

“What pain arises
when you seek to practice
patience?”

Questions
that guide people
through
the process.