May we understand
our past self
without acting as one.
May we act
as our present self
without .
May we feel inspired by our future self
without expecting our present
to be one already.
Author: Seung Chan Lim
3 Types of Progress
There are at least
3 types
of progress
Forward movement.
Shift in direction.
and Greater clarity.
The first,
is the most obvious.
The second,
may require,
perhaps ironically,
setbacks,
but pays off in dividends
in the grand scheme of things.
The third,
may introduce,
perhaps ironically,
setbacks
or retreats,
because when it is foggy,
the only way to gain clarity
is to move forward,
even if we know
it is the wrong
direction.
Boundaries & Systems
In a system
boundaries
are temporary
and require constant
management.
We try to blame others
hoping that
the boundaries
will become permanent
but it will never happen
Judgment vs Empathy
Judging what is
right
vs wrong
often gets in the way
of discovering
or creating
a new understanding
and appreciation
that leads us
to realize
empathy.
Tyranny of Books
Some books
are written
to argue
right
vs
wrong.
Those who resonate with the argument
loves
the book.
Those who do not
hate it.
The missed opportunity is
integrating both sides
and drawing a more whole picture
so people can choose
depending
on context.
Same vs Different
No two “things”
can ever be
the same.
Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.
So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.
We can argue why they’re not
the same.
We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”
The choice
is ours
and ours only.
May we take responsibility
for our choices.
Paradox vs Problem (Part 2)
Paradox
is not
“out there.”
It is inside
our minds.
The moment we reframe our problems
as paradoxes,
may also be the moment
it becomes much easier
to make progress
on our challenges.
Coaching
The purpose of coaching
is to help you
win.
Its not
to heal.
Nor is It
to change.
If healing is necessary
to win
then so be it.
If change is necessary
to win
then so be it.
But those are only means
to an end.
3 Levels of Tension
Low tension
Creative tension
Destructive tension
is where tension ha sustained
Addictiveness of Power
It’s easy
to judge others
for getting addicted
to power.
And yet,
once someone realizes
that what power gives us
is the potential
to never have to expose
our vulnerabilities,
to never have to feel
such unpleasant
emotions,
as shame
and embarrassment
it’s not too difficult to image
why anyone
would not wish to let go
to not get addicted
hard to blame anyone
for not wanting to lose
that way.
A way
called “power.”