What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
“I hate the fact
that the only way I can feel better
in my co-founder relationship
is to think of my co-founder
as an employee.”
said the founder.
“What do you mean?”
I asked.
“I have to lower my expectations.”
the founder answered.
“Lower how?”
I asked
“That he may not be able to support me
the way I want him
to support me.”
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I raised enough
money.” he said.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I hired enough
experts.” he continued.
…
“I thought
that all my problems would be solved
…
once I achieved enough
annual revenue.” he let out a sigh.
“I have no more excuses.
All this time,
I have been lying to myself.”
he remarked.
“It’s OK.
We all lie to ourselves
from time
to time.
There is a world of difference
between having a need for validation
and judging
that we are not worthy
of validation
Scarcity
Is not
bad.
It is scarcity
that empower us to profess our love
before someone’s
passing.
When we know
we have little time
we do things
we would never do
when time
is abundant.
I want to learn the best practice
he said
Do you?
I asked
Fear
can inspire behaviors
either too fast
or too slow.
Sometimes
asking ourselves
am I doing enough
may mean
that we dont have enough trust
in the people around us
to do their share.
Some results need to be achived
and if we are not the one who can achieve those results
but they can only be achieved through others
or we’d rather have others achieve those results
So the question isn’t am I doing enough
the question is
who can I entrust to do something
that I am not doing
or I am not good at doing
or I do not want to do.
“What do you remember
as the single most
disrespectful event
you’ve experienced
as an employee?”
the founder asked.
“Being treated
as a means
to the company’s
ends”
I replied.
“But isn’t that
natural?”
she asked.
“From the company’s perspective,
perhaps.”
I replied.
“But from the employee’s
perspective
I’m sacrificing my time and energy
to be with you
when I could be
with someone else
We say
we have too much
to do.
When it may be
that we choose to do
more than we can
handle.
There are times
when taking responsibility
restores the power we need
to take charge
of our lives.
Compassion without realization of empathy
can easily lead
to manipulation.