First time we snowboard,
draw,
lead,
we tend to use a lot of force.
When our snowboarding,
pencil marks,
teammates,
are not to our liking,
we may apply even more force.
Years later,
when we snowboard,
draw,
lead,
we may feel more relaxed.
When we have to stop abruptly,
make a bold mark,
assert a final decision,
we may still use force.
But these are different uses of force.
In the first case,
it was probably because we were afraid of falling,
making a mistake,
being judged.
Once we can empathize with
the snowboard,
our drawing tools,
our teammates,
fear can vanish for a moment
in the experience of oneness
beyond “I” vs “them.”
Force used in fear
resists
Like two opponents wrestling.
Force used while empathizing
flows
Like two partners dancing.