The burden of responsibility
is only heavy
while we delay
our response.
Month: December 2024
Fear and Judgment
The need to judge
right
vs wrong
is often nothing more
than a way to alleviate our fear
of being wrong
or perhaps being blamed
for being
wrong.
Compassionate Blindness
When others resist
or reject our actions
inspired by our compassion,
we may judge them
for being insecure,
blinded by our own good intentions
without seeing how we contribute
to fueling their insecurity
When Pain Matter
When we realize
that our pain
matters
to other people
not in the sense
that they care about us
or they have compassion for us
but in the sense
that we’re not the only one
whose experiencing this pain
and by me experiencing pain
others’ pain can be alleviated
we start to rise from the pain
with a sense of purpose.
Lowering Tension
Our psychological
and relational tension lowers
when we come to empathize
with ourselves
or others
in new ways
through a moment
of realization.
They’re doing it wrong
When it seems like
“others”
are doing something
“wrong,”
we may eventually realize
empathy
to discover
that they may only be doing “wrong”
what you
want them to do
while simultaneously doing “right”
what they themselves
want to do.
Belief & Imagination
Suspending disbelief
open us up
to imagine
without believing.
And if we have trouble imagining
we can seek support
just as artists do
from the very material with which
we’re trying to imagine
by asking them questions
and working with them
to see what we can learn from them.
The Reason Why?
Often times,
what we need
is a story,
based on facts,
with which we can
realize empathy
As long as the story is based on facts,
whether that story is actually the reason
or not is less important.
What matters is that
we can understand and appreciate
why
in a way that depersonalizes us
(if the reason why certain stories are not acceptable or hanunting us is
because it personalizes us
it faults us.
The story right now is mom left me because she thought I was worthless
if I can appreciate her story of how much fear she felt of the thought of raising a child,
then I can understand,
but appreciation has to come first
not understanding
because even if we understand that someone is doing something because they’re insecure
without appreciation of the insecurity
we can easily judge the insecurity
as a weapon to say “well, they shouldn’t be so insecure if they’re CEO!”
The Rhythm Section
When I first learned to play
the guitar,
I only learned how to play
so that I can sound
good.
Years later,
I learned from Victor Wooten,
that there is a different kind of learning,
which is to learn how to play
so that other people
can sound
good.
The art
of support.
To Fire or Not to Fire
The challenge
of whether or not
to fire someone
is rarely a challenge
of whether or not
to fire them.
The real challenge
may not become clear
until we acknowledge
the emotions we feel
confronted with the prospect
of firing them.
Guilt
Regret
Gratitude
Conflicted with
Certainty
The need to maintain relationship.