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Empathy
is why we can connect
across boundaries
and distance.

Connect with people far away
Connect with people’s minds despite the boundary of skin
Connect with our emotions, we’ve stashed deep inside
Connect with our thoughts

When employees
frustrate us,
we at least have the option
to either blame their incompetence
or support them
to fully utilize their competence.

When we think they’re disrespecting us
they may simply be stalling trying to satisfy us by doing something on their own instead of simply asking for help

The word empathy

was originally invented to explain

why we can feel connected

to something or someone

with whom we perceive to have

distance

or

boundary.

Sometimes

such boundary blurring

or distance closing

can yield positive outcomes

Other times

not so much.

Empathy

is neither good

nor bad.

It is simply

an explanation.

The responsibility lies

with each

and every one of us

When others
cannot understand what we’re saying
or doing
we can,
to them,
sound.

‘t their fault.

I couldn’t even understand myself,
so how could I expect more from others?

But then I met people
who understood me
better than I could understand
myself.

Without them
I would not be here.

If you are feeling
depressed and anxious
I want you to know
that it’s not your fault.

Nor is it the fault of those around you.

You sought validation.

Only to realize
that others
think you’re crazy.

…

Here’s the thing.

Both you
and others
are not
wrong.

The reason why others think you’re crazy
is because they cannot
empathize with you.

They cannot empathize with you,
because they don’t know how.

You’re not helping, either,
because you’re not communicating well.

You’re not communicating well,
because you don’t know
what you’re talking about.

You don’t know what you’re talking about,
not because you’re incompetent,
or stupid,
but because you haven’t reflected enough.

That’s not your fault.

When we’re alone,
it’s very easy
to confuse rumination
with reflection.

May we remember
that reflection
requires a particular kind
of relationship.

May we not let others convince us
that we’re crazy.

May we develop a relationship
where we can reflect.

/wy p

May we not confuse
having a vision
to maintain directionality
and having a vision
to head toward
happiness.

It is possible
that realizing a vision
will not make us
happy.

It is possible
we can be happy
without realizing
any vision.

Sometimes
we hear from the very people
to whom we intentionally express
our appreciation
that we don’t appreciate them
enough.

Let us not confuse
our intent to appreciate
with our impact.

I’ve noticed
that one of the easiest ways to get likes
is to say something that make people feel heard.

One
of the easiest ways to make people feel heard
is to bad mouth people
they don’t feel heard by.

Judging employees as lazy
may fulfill the bosses need to feel heard.

Judging bosses as toxic
may fulfil the employees need to feel heard.

Bu this only creates divide.

To go beyond this
is the challenge we face.

May we dream big
even seemingly impossible
dreams.

But then to make steps toward it
may we
do only as much as we can take responsibility

The smallest simplest yet heaviest
burden we CAN carry.

Otherwise,
we bite more than we can chew
as we get in over our heads.

Or
if we cannot carry the burden
may we have the courage
to admit our inability to take the responsibility
alone
and ask for help.

When someone
underperforms
we can let them go
or support them
toward better performance.

But supporting them
because we’re afraid of the conflict
that may ensure in the process of separation
breeds impatience
frustration.