If to respect,
is to see
anew,
expect is to see
as formerly seen.
When we respect someone,
we don’t blame them
for not doing what we wanted them to do
we remind them
that they did not do what they know they can do.
Author: Seung Chan Lim
Need vs Form
If we do
or say things
to fulfill a need,
then we form our objects,
organizations,
and rituals
to fulfill that need.
Yet,
the words,
the behaviors,
and the forms of our objects
and organizations
can mislead us,
if we fail to comprehend
and appreciate
the underlying needs
that shaped it.
Tis
how easily
dogma
is born.
How to Motivate
When speaking of
others
we ask
how can we motivate them?
When I ask
how do you motivate
yourself?
They say
I dont need
motivation
or I dont wait
for motivation.
What makes you think
others
are different?
Ignorance, Disgust, Fear
We have trouble realizing empathy
because we
aren’t aware (even if we may know)
don’t want to (disgust)
or we are too afraid. (fear)
Advice Giving
There is advice
that is accepted.
Then there is advice
that is rejected.
The former
dissolves the paradox
in the other person’s mind.
The latter
merely solves the problem
as defined
by the advice giver.
Fixing vs Creating
Sometimes
we spend so much time and energy
fixing
what we deem
broken
that we miss the opportunity
to create
something wholly
different.
Like that time
when we spent
Method vs Context
Sometimes,
we think our method of communication
sucks.
Maybe.
But before the method
there is
relationship.
It is in the relationship,
where emotions
such as trust
reside.
If the relationship is sound,
the method can matter
less.
If the relationship is unsound
the method
Boundary & Distance
Empathy
is why we can connect
across boundaries
and distance.
Connect with people far away
Connect with people’s minds despite the boundary of skin
Connect with our emotions, we’ve stashed deep inside
Connect with our thoughts
Misunderstanding Employees
When employees
frustrate us,
we at least have the option
to either blame their incompetence
or support them
to fully utilize their competence.
When we think they’re disrespecting us
they may simply be stalling trying to satisfy us by doing something on their own instead of simply asking for help
Empathy, the word
The word empathy
was originally invented to explain
why we can feel connected
to something or someone
with whom we perceive to have
distance
or
boundary.
Sometimes
such boundary blurring
or distance closing
can yield positive outcomes
Other times
not so much.
Empathy
is neither good
nor bad.
It is simply
an explanation.
The responsibility lies
with each
and every one of us