What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
It’s easy to tell others
“be humble.”
Until you experience a moment,
when it feels as if “being humble”
will bring about
your own demise.
It’s easy to tell others
“listen.”
Until you experience a moment,
when you feel so unheard
that you want the other person to listen
first.
It’s easy to tell others
“appreciate.”
Until you experience a moment,
when what you appreciate
is not what they want to feel appreciated
for.
When disagreeing
it may be important to recognize
that we need not take responsibility
for someone else’s choice.
If the disagreement is because we feel like well have to take responsibility
for someone elses choice,
then make that clear,
I choose to support you on your decision
provided you make clear that you will take responsibility
for the consequences.
If we’re nice
we’ll get burned one day.
Then we may decide
no longer
to be nice
Then we’ll get burned one day
for not being nice
May we not let our hurt
dictate our destiny
May we learn to choose
by being present
in the moment
Why do we play?
Is it really because it’s fun?
We play
just because
There’s no reason
It’s unconditional.
But that doesn’t mean
we may not feel resentment
when someone doesn’t recirprocate
unconditional is not a moral good
or some self-sacrifice
Unconditional
is simply natural
and enjoyable
in the moment
“How do I retain
my best employees?”
asked the founder.
Equally important is to choose to take responsibility in seeing that your employees are not for us to “retain.” They have a life journey they’re on and it is not up to us to “retain” them. No matter how much progress, meaning, and choice they feel there will come a time when your employee will want to leave. It’s worth reflecting on the deeper fear that is giving rise to the question of and address that more fundamentally.
When we push someone
against the direction of their weight
we feel
resistance.
When we support someone
we push them
against the direction of their weight
and we feel
resistance
There lies
a delicate balance
betweeen
pushing someone
and supporting someone.
“I need to prove that they’re wrong.”
said the CEO.
“Why?”
I asked
“Because I don’t want him to think I’m making an arbitrary decision.”
she responded.
“What do you think will happen if you prove them wrong?”
I asked
“He’ll probably trying to prove he’s right.”
she responded.
And then what?
I’ll prove him wrong again.
Then what?
I guess we’ll go around in circles.
You do realize
that you cannot guarntee you’re right, right?
Yeah, I do.
But nor does he!
True
But you have the power
to make the decision
What have you got to lose
if you simply said
“I may be wrong, but I’d like to make this decision for the following reasons.”
A major challenge
of leadership,
is making the effort required
to realize empathy
first
in relation to people
who may not do the same
with us.
It is a challenge
that can easily build within us
feelings
of resentment
and vengefulness.
Making us wonder why
the world is filled
with such ungrateful people
and how unfair
the world is.
It is normal for us
to deeply
It is easy
to judge beauty
as lacking
function.
Unaware
of how his behavior changes
when faced
with beauty.
Just because the function isn’t clear
doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter
it just means, it’s versatile
The big misunderstanding
is that we’ll be happy
once we have
“it.”
Perhaps
briefly.
Then
it’ll be the same.
The challenge
is to be happy
now.
Not always.
But now.
Then pursue “it,”
simply because it’s fun
to pursue.
