What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
There are at least
3 types
of progress
Forward movement.
Shift in direction.
and Greater clarity.
The first,
is the most obvious.
The second,
may require,
perhaps ironically,
setbacks,
but pays off in dividends
in the grand scheme of things.
The third,
may introduce,
perhaps ironically,
setbacks
or retreats,
because when it is foggy,
the only way to gain clarity
is to move forward,
even if we know
it is the wrong
direction.
In a system
boundaries
are temporary
and require constant
management.
We try to blame others
hoping that
the boundaries
will become permanent
but it will never happen
Judging what is
right
vs wrong
often gets in the way
of discovering
or creating
a new understanding
and appreciation
that leads us
to realize
empathy.
Some books
are written
to argue
right
vs
wrong.
Those who resonate with the argument
loves
the book.
Those who do not
hate it.
The missed opportunity is
integrating both sides
and drawing a more whole picture
so people can choose
depending
on context.
No two “things”
can ever be
the same.
Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.
So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.
We can argue why they’re not
the same.
We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”
The choice
is ours
and ours only.
May we take responsibility
for our choices.
Paradox
is not
“out there.”
It is inside
our minds.
The moment we reframe our problems
as paradoxes,
may also be the moment
it becomes much easier
to make progress
on our challenges.
The purpose of coaching
is to help you
win.
Its not
to heal.
Nor is It
to change.
If healing is necessary
to win
then so be it.
If change is necessary
to win
then so be it.
But those are only means
to an end.
