We often think
yes,
no,
and maybe
are the only three responses
we can give to
or receive from
others.
That is until we realize
that there exists
a fourth way,
which is to let’s (or help me) think
together.
Day: July 27, 2025
What I really want…
“What do you want
to hear from him?”
What I really want to hear
is that they won’t leave me.
What I really want to hear
is that I’ll never be
alone.
Beyond Responsibility
“I want to achieve
peace in my family.”
“I want my team members
to be happy.”
“I want …”
While these can be goals,
aspirations,
or expectations,
they cannot be
our responsibility.
Not because we don’t care
or because we have no influence,
but because
responsibility
does not equal
outcome.
What is within our responsibility
is to do our best.
Sometimes our best
does not yield
an outcome
we find satisfying.
Our responsibility lies
is what response we choose
in relation to the outcome
we do not find satisfying.
Having vs Being
We have
a past,
but we are not
our past.
We have
a future,
but we are not
our future.
We are
who we are
This may sound
obvious.
Yet,
I invite you to monitor what you say
and count the times
you ignore the obvious
and how that impacts the quality
of your life,
the quality
of your decision making,
and the quality
of your relationships.
Giving Advice
There are
at least two ways
of giving advice.
One,
what most do,
is tell people
what they should do.
Two,
is laying out for people
a variety of options,
asking them to add more,
discussing their consequences or influences of their outcome
on the lives of those who choose each
then let them make the final decision
Power of Responsibility
To take responsibility
isn’t to take the blame
it is to take charge
of the situation
by declaring our autonomy.
Perfecting or Fearing Failure
There are minor details
that warrant perfection
before release
even if it doesn’t matter
to some.
Then there are major details
that does not warrant perfection
before release
because the point
is to test our fear.
Where failure itself
will be as valuable
as success.
We are often paralyzed
in front of the prospect
of doing the latter.