What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
What cold outreach taught me
was that what people are doing
is not rejecting me.
What they are doing
is saying things to me.
It is I who choose
to interpret their words
as rejection
or as something else.
From their perspective,
they may be feeling misunderstood
take advantage of, etc…
Some psychologists
claim they know
how to listen.
Perhaps.
But I learned to listen
not from psychologists,
but from artists.
Craftsmen
listening to their materials
Actors
listening to
Musicians.
If one thinks
they know how to listen
as psychologists do,
we are missing so much of it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pn1f5bx5dAY
If to respect,
is to see
anew,
expect is to see
as formerly seen.
When we respect someone,
we don’t blame them
for not doing what we wanted them to do
we remind them
that they did not do what they know they can do.
If we do
or say things
to fulfill a need,
then we form our objects,
organizations,
and rituals
to fulfill that need.
Yet,
the words,
the behaviors,
and the forms of our objects
and organizations
can mislead us,
if we fail to comprehend
and appreciate
the underlying needs
that shaped it.
Tis
how easily
dogma
is born.