What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
“I want answers!”
he shouted,
in frustration.
“…”
“Did you hear me???”
he lowered his voice.
“I
want
answers!”
he shouted again.
“I have no answers.”
a response came back.
He stared at me,
breathing heavily.
“All I can do
is help you discover
what it is
you’re willing to take
responsibility for.”
People say
“You always have
a choice!”
No.
You always have
options.
You don’t always have
a choice.
Choices
sometimes have to be acquired
through learning,
discovering,
or creating.
There is a moment
when someone who judged leaders
for being unworthy
faces a challenge where they themselves feel
like they have no other choice,
but to become just like them.
At this juncture, we can judge
that we have no choice,
or we can perspective we need
that will allow us to see the situation
in a different way,
where we discover or create choices
we did not know
we had
What we claim to do
“for” others
is often not
for them,
but for our
selves.
Actually,
it is not accurate to say
that it is for ourselves,
either.
It is more accurate to say
that it is for an image
of who we believe
we must be
to not be judged
as someone whom
we do not wish
to be judged as.
Having empathy
is fine
if what you have
is what you need.
Realizing empathy
is necessary
when what you have
is not what you need.
There are times
when the distinction between us
and others,
seem to explain why
we are unworthy
of respect.
There are also times
when the distinction
between us
and others,
seem to explain why
we are worthy
of respect.
In the former,
the distinction creates isolation,
while in the latter
The moment
we feel like we have
so much work to do
may be the very moment
we need to step back
and actually scope out
the landscape
as opposed to
jumping in
and getting to work.
When we give someone
advice
then find ourselves feeling
frustrated
or angry
for not following
our advice
ponder the possibility
that we have yet to recover
from a pain we incurred
in our past
and projecting ourselves
on to others.
When I remember
the moments when I was
happy
I was not in pursuit
of happiness.
When I rememer
the moments when I were not happy
I was in pursuit
of happiness.
One way to notice
that we’re genuinely
innovating
is to notice
that we don’t know
what we’re doing.
If we know
what we’re doing
we’re probably just
following the steps
of manufacturing.
