When our team
have something they want to do
and we tell them
not to do it,
we may feel satisfied
seeing them
stop.
…
What we may not realize
is that they may be doing it
behind our back.
What I Really Wanted
I thought I wanted
to sing.
What I really wanted
was permission
to feel.
I thought I wanted
to act.
What I really wanted
was permission
to be real.
I thought I wanted
to make furniture.
What I really wanted
was permission
to play.
Dehumanization
A simple way
to dehumanize an employee
is to think
that we can demand
they conform to our image
of what an employee
should be like.
A simple way
to dehumanize an employer
is to think
that we can demand
they conform to our image
of what an employer
should be like.
Violence & Mattering
When we feel
like we don’t
matter
we can naturally desire
control,
manipulation,
and even
violence.
To call us
insecure
in that moment,
while not
incorrect,
omits the valid reason
for our insecurity,
thereby making us seem
crazy,
weak,
or inept,
exacerbating the feeling
of not mattering,
thereby perpetuating
a vicious
cycle.
Truth & Perspective
The truth
is not always easy
to articulate.
When perspectives
are easier to articulate
than the truth,
we may be tempted
to articulate our perspective
as the truth.
But perspectives in isolation
while not
untrue
can never be
the truth.
Snowflakes
Some people
judge the younger generation
as “snowflakes.”
What I see
is a generation
with higher standards.
Higher standards
of emotional literacy
and emotional intelligence.
The kind of standards that,
if understood accurately
and implemented effectively,
may finally stop
the vicious cycle
of generational
trauma.
Last Laugh
If resentment says
“I will have
the last laugh.”
Regret may say
“I wish I could have
laughed about it
then.”
When Making Art Begins
Making art
can begin with nothing more
than a thought.
One that says
“Hm…
There is something
here,”
A thought that inspires
a sense
of intrigue.
Progress is made
when intrigue inspires
yet another thought.
One that says
“I wonder
what that something
is?”
A thought that inspires
a sense
of wonder.
…
But then
a fork in the road
appears.
One that tests
our courage
and humility.
Humility
because we have to admit
we don’t know
what that something
is
and value
the process of coming
to know it.
Courage
because it will cost us
time,
energy,
among other things
to pursue this journey
of following through
with the sense
of wonder.
This is the same
whether your art
is writing,
making sculpture,
or starting
a business.
Selfishness
When we judge ourselves
as selfish,
it is often nothing more
than a symptom
of our fear of being judged
by others
as selfish.
Unintentionally Passive
Employees
are often hired
to solve
a problem.
But employees often think
they’re hired
to do
a job.
If the job done
doesn’t solve the problem
that inspired the hire
employees can be perceived
as passive
even if they’re proactive
in doing their job.
If the problem to be solved
isn’t clear
employers can be perceived
as unappreciative
and disrespectful
even if they care
about their employees.