What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
When tension amounts
it introduces stiffness,
aches,
and knots,
which impacts
our mobility.
It isn’t
that we are merely unwilling
to change our position,
but that changing positions
is hard
due to stiffness,
aches,
and knots.
Help us relieve our tension
and we will naturally change
positions.
What is an unrealistic
expectation?
People who never
cheat
make mistakes
betray
All of the above
are part
of the human
condition.
But so is
foregiveness
recover
The ills of the world
may be easier to handle
were they manifestations
of mere malicious intentions.
What make is complex
is that most
are inspired by compassion
Some give gifts
based on their projection
of value.
Something expensive
Something rare
Something ??
The receiver appreciates gifts
based on what they value
but have difficulty attaining.
Something they wouldnt pay that much for
Something
What cold outreach taught me
was that what people are doing
is not rejecting me.
What they are doing
is saying things to me.
It is I who choose
to interpret their words
as rejection
or as something else.
From their perspective,
they may be feeling misunderstood
take advantage of, etc…
If to respect,
is to see
anew,
expect is to see
as formerly seen.
When we respect someone,
we don’t blame them
for not doing what we wanted them to do
we remind them
that they did not do what they know they can do.
If we do
or say things
to fulfill a need,
then we form our objects,
organizations,
and rituals
to fulfill that need.
Yet,
the words,
the behaviors,
and the forms of our objects
and organizations
can mislead us,
if we fail to comprehend
and appreciate
the underlying needs
that shaped it.
Tis
how easily
dogma
is born.
Gratitude
has somehow became
a panacea.
“Be grateful.”
some say.
“Be honest.”
I say in response.
If you don’t feel gratitude,
you don’t feel gratitude.
What you feel
is what you feel.
I lack empathy.
Sometimes.
We all lack empathy.
Sometimes.
Let those
who’s never lacked empathy,
judge others
for lacking empathy.
Let those
who’s never seen others lack empathy,
judge themselves
for lacking empathy.
It’s ok
to complain.
In fact,
it can be healthy.
Except,
complain to someone
with skills.
The skills to summarize your complaint
far more succinctly
than you could
alone.
The skills to organize your complaint
far more clearly
than you could
alone.
The skills to guide your complaint
toward a resolution
you couldn’t reach
alone.
May we neither waste our complaint
on people who lack
such skills.
Nor leave such people frustrated
for lacking
such skills.
