If a mentor
is someone who has achieved something
we wish to achieve,
the mere fact that they exist
can give us hope
and the confidence
to do what we want
to do.
Using Emotions
We are not
angry.
We have
anger.
We are not
afraid.
We have
fear.
We are not
ashamed.
We have
shame.
The moment we take ownership
of an emotion,
just as we take ownership
of a car,
may also be the moment
we use them
to get to point B
from point
A
instead of letting them drive us
to where we do not wish
to go.
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In our fifth episode of the season, we host Kartik Kumar, Founder-CEO of SatSearch.
Since the founding of his company, Khartik aspired to promote a self-organizing team. But there came a time when such promotion led to chaos that made him to question not only this decision, but also the very process he has been using thus far _to_ make decisions. In this episode, we explore his inquiry into how a leader can make good decisions on a regular basis.
Taking Responsibility for Hate
Just as
taking responsibility
is not the same
as accepting
blame.
Taking responsibility
is not the same
as tolerating
hate.
When we have done something
we regret
we may take responsibility
for our past
and future actions.
While simultaneously inviting others
to take responsibility
for their own hate
of our mistakes.
Playing Not to Lose
Often times
we say we want something
when really
we want to prevent
something else.
Something
we do not want.
Some say
they want
growth,
but really
they do not want
to be small.
Some say
they want
wealth,
but really
they do not want
to be poor.
Some say
they want success,
but really
they do not want
to fail.
Playing
not to
lose
instead of playing
to win.
Burden of the Past
Move on,
they say.
Move with,
we experience.
Sometimes
we put it down.
We may even put them
in storage for a while.
But eventually
we take it out
pick it back up
and move with it.
And as we do
there may come a moment
when we look at it
with new eyes.
As if to discover
old photographs.
Photographs
we now cherish.
Not for the content
of the past.
But for its meaning
in the present.
3 Basic Uncertainties
At each transition,
we may crave the answer
to 3 questions.
Where do I want
to go?
Who do I want
to be
or become
in that journey?
What makes the where
and the who
worth the struggle
for me,
personally?
Judgments & Misunderstandings
Sometimes
we see men
calling women
“emotional,”
when it may be more accurate
to call them
emotionally aware
or emotionally
open.
Sometimes
we see women
accuse men
of “suffering less,”
when it may be more accurate
to accuse them
of numbing themselves
or pretending
to be fine.
Two Birds with One Stone
Sometimes
we complain that our advice falls
on deaf ears.
If so
it may be worth discerning
the kind of problem
to which we’re giving
advice.
One type of problem
is a dilemma.
A dilemma arises
when we want to catch two birds
with one stone.
If our advice to someone with a dilemma
is to kill
just one bird.
The likelihood
of that advice falling on deaf ears
is high.
Decision Maker
The decision
can only be made
by the decision
maker.
No matter how much we dislike
the decision made,
the responsibility of decision making
lies solely
with the decision
maker.
In much the same way,
the decision we make
in response to other’s decisions
is our responsibility.