Launching Empathy 101

I cannot believe
it’s been 10 years
since the publication
of my book.

To celebrate this occasion
and to share my work more broadly,
I’m launching a 10-part series
of short writings (mostly 1 pagers)
on empathy.

Click here to gain access at free-of-charge.

This is a work-

You can comment on it
so as to influence my direction

The first 6 parts
have already been published.

I plan to publish the other 4
throughout the year.

Fear vs Danger

When using
a table saw,
there is the danger
of severing
our fingers.

What’s remarkable
is that so long as we have
a clear understanding of the danger
in using the table saw
many of us find it sufficient
to work up the courage
to engage with it
despite the danger,
instead of staying stuck
in the thought
of severing our fingers
which merely gives rise
to fear.

A Difficult Case

When someone judges us
a “difficult
it can be easy
to blame ourselves
for being
a “difficult,

While this may mean
there is something extraordinary
about us,
it also means
that someone with greater skills
will not not judge us
a “difficult

p.s: This was inspired by a meeting with a doctor who called my wife a “difficult case,” while asking her to work with another doctor with more experience and skill. An unfortunately common case of compassion without empathy, displayed by many of us, including yours truly, when we take on the role of caregiving.

Season 2 
of “The Journey of Realizing Empathy
is now live.

Click here to listen on Spotify

In our inaugural episode, 
we host Priya Amin
former Founder and CEO 
of Flexable.

During COVID, 
Priya had to close Flexable down 
both because of financial strain 
and her own personal burnout.

In this episode, 
we explore her inquiry 
into being more compassionate with herself 
as she moves through the next phase 
of her entrepreneurial

Let the conversation

Intuition as Guide

It can be useful
to think of intuition
as a guide.

A guide does not claim
to have the right

A guide merely claims
to know something
of paying

We may choose
to ignore the guide.

We may also choose
to follow the guide
and learn what the guide

But may we not
blame the guide
for our decisions.

The guide never claimed
to have the right

Process vs Outcome

When we give advice,
we often offer
an outcome.

“Have courage.”
“Be patient.”

All outcomes
that arise
from a process.

Instead of giving advice,
what if we were to ask

“What would you need
right now
to feel

“What is it
that makes it difficult
for you
to forgive?”

“What pain arises
when you seek to practice

that guide people
the process.