The folks
whom we neglect the most
in our efforts to manage up
may be
our parents.
The older I get
the more I realize
that they need our support
more than we need their’s.
Failure to Launch
Launch failure
can sometimes be
the birthplace of
a pivot.
Guaranteed Achievement
If the goal post
of life
is death,
we
are guaranteed
achievement.
With achievement
guaranteed
how do you wish
to enjoy?
Grace
We often thank luck,
when it may be more than that:
grace.
Not Caring
It is not
that I do not care
about them.
I do.
It is that
I am confident
I can recover
the relationship
or recover from
the relationship.
That even if I do something
they wont like
I trust
that they care about me
just as I care about them
for our relationship
to sustain.
Otherwise
we are merely conforming
walking on eggshells
Compassion as Curse
If you do it that way,
you can fail!
Even if we say those words
out of compassion
for another person.
The person receiving it
can easily interpret it
as a curse.
Change
To change
our Circumstance
may we start
by changing
our “self.”
To change
our “self,”
may we start
by changing
our circumstance.
This may sound paradoxical,
but it merely means
that when something changes
in our environment
enough to inspres us
to take responsibility
for responding differently
to our environemtn
change starts
Verb vs Noun
Are you
a verb?
or
Are you
a noun?
If you’re a verb
you put your self-worth
on the verb.
If you’re a noun
you put your self-worth
on the noun.
The choice
is yours
and yours
only.
Problem Solving vs Problem Solved
Sometimes
problems are better solved
when we do not try
to problem solve.
Managing “Up”
Lack of experience
can allude us to think
that there is such a thing
as managing “up.”
Just as we eventually learn
that our parents
need our support
just as we need theirs,
what we misunderstand as “up”
What we eventually learn
is that “up” is an illusion.
Once we realize
that parents manage us
primarily because of the conern
they feel
we can proactively manage them
by alleviating their concern