What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
Its easy to judge
losing
as “bad.”
As long as we love someone
or something
we will eventually
lose them.
The only way not to lose
is to never
love.
What we often forget
is that while we love
because we have yet to lose
we dont
appreciate.
And only appreciate
after we have lost.
Once you realize
that taking responsibility
is not the same as taking blame
but rather points
to our ability
to respond,
may also be the moment we realize
that sharing responsibility
is simply gather the ability of others
to respond
together.
What we focus on
is sometimes a result
of a burden
we’re carrying.
That focus can be released
when others release us
from the burden.
I was focused on making the website perfect to make sure I’m supporting connie to the best of my ability,
then she told me I don’t have to work on the website anymore because it was enough and it will never be perfect enough to answer all the questions that we cannot possibly anticipate getting, then I felt a relief from my shoulder, it was then an only then that I realized it was a burden I was carrying. The burden that I must make the website perfect or else I’m not doing my job or my responsibility that I’m not being enough.
More is not enough
Less is not lack
Curiosity
can lead to an excessive pursuit
of an answer.
Wonder,
does not.
The weight of responsibility
is only heavy
while we have yet to choose
our response.
The choice
may be made more easily
when the choice making
is shared
with a coach
with a peer
with a direct report
Some give gifts
based on their projection
of value.
Something expensive
Something rare
Something ??
The receiver appreciates gifts
based on what they value
but have difficulty attaining.
Something they wouldnt pay that much for
Something
For me,
depression
was my soul
telling me
to pay attention
to it
to stop neglecting it
to stop pretending
that it doesn’t matter.
Disagreeing with someone
is easy.
Creating something we consider new
or unexpected
that people can agree
is hard.
If psychologists
can name
our experience
so can anybody.
If so,
may we name it
in such a way
that we feel more curious
about it
as if to take interest
in a pet
or a friend.
Someone
we are more likely
to spend the time and energy
required
to learn to understand
and appreciate.