What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
One way
in which our thoughts
and behaviors
are guided,
is the belief
that since I suffered,
either
you should also
or you should not.
It’s easy to judge
one to be better
than the other
But the nuance
is that our it may be more effective
to let our suffering be our suffering
and let others decide for their own
and take responsibiltiy
for their choices
Easy
may not be a choice
that can be learned.
But you can be
at ease.
When we identify
a mistake,
it may be tempting
to permanently fix
so that we may never make the same
mistake.
Except,
if we do that
we also make it impossible
that the context in which
that previous “mistake”
ie beneficial
from happening.
An alternative
Is to balance
so that we never fix
but allow room
for both.
When we hit the limit
of our current maturaion
we will always confront
a paradox
And we may not even recognize the paradox
because we would have jumpted to judgment
to squash the discomfort
of paradox
I used to think
we cannot be present
with the future
or the present.
But I learned
from woodworking
is that when a table saw
is whirring in front of you,
you have no choice,
but to be present.
The table saw
was
at that moment
undoubtedly the most important thing
to pay attention.
To be present with something
may be bring it to the present
by writing those thoughts down
There is handling
between handling a situation
and attempting to solve it.
The latter judges
Passion,
by definition,
includes suffering.
We may allow passion
to guide us
We may also allow
wonder
to guide us
There are those
with the ambition
to change
the world.
I just want
to make my mother
happy.
We’d like to believe
that acquiring merit
is what determines
success.
But often times
acquiring merit
without acquiring trust
is worse
than acquiring trust
without acquiring merit.
The moment
we feel like we have
so much work to do
may be the very moment
we need to step back
and actually scope out
the landscape
as opposed to
jumping in
and getting to work.