What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
No two “things”
can ever be
the same.
Especially if we consider
their location
in time
and space.
So when we hear someone say
“it’s the same thing,”
and we disagree,
we have at least
two choices.
We can argue why they’re not
the same.
We can also discover their perspective,
which is focusing on a similarity
between two or more things
that they value enough
to say “it’s the same thing.”
The choice
is ours
and ours only.
May we take responsibility
for our choices.
Paradox
is not
“out there.”
It is inside
our minds.
The moment we reframe our problems
as paradoxes,
may also be the moment
it becomes much easier
to make progress
on our challenges.
The purpose of coaching
is to help you
win.
Its not
to heal.
Nor is It
to change.
If healing is necessary
to win
then so be it.
If change is necessary
to win
then so be it.
But those are only means
to an end.
Low tension
Creative tension
Destructive tension
is where tension ha sustained
It’s easy
to judge others
for getting addicted
to power.
And yet,
once someone realizes
that what power gives us
is the potential
to never have to expose
our vulnerabilities,
to never have to feel
such unpleasant
emotions,
as shame
and embarrassment
it’s not too difficult to image
why anyone
would not wish to let go
to not get addicted
hard to blame anyone
for not wanting to lose
that way.
A way
called “power.”
People are not rejecting us
They don’t want to sacrifice
for their time
money
or whatever else they have.
They are not our enemy
They are merely people taking responsibility for themselves
Some say
realizing empathy
requires
imagination
Sure.
But perhaps more importantly,
realizing empathy
develops
our imagination.
As we age
we may realize
that what we once considered
“old“
is “young”,
while what we once considered
“young”
is younger.
Our parents
can have the best of intentions
and yet
hurt us
in unimaginable ways.
Our
“You must have had
so much will power
to finish your book!”
someone asked.
“No.
I finished it,
because I promised
my kickstarter backers.”
I answered.
“You must have had
so much courage
to leave your comfortable job
to go to art school.”
someone asked.
“No.
I went to art school,
because it was the only ray of hope
I was offered
by a stranger.”
I answered.
Everything I’ve done
that seems difficult
was done
because someone supported me
to do it.
