What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
“I’m afraid
my presentation
will fail.”
said the founder.
“What do you mean
‘fail?’”
I asked.
“It won’t impact
my employees.”
he responded.
“You’re assuming
that your employees
will even listen.”
I commented.
He laughed.
And that
was what he needed to hear
to release his anxiety
and express himself
instead of pandering to the audience
The moment we realize
what we made
came
through us
not
from us
may also be the moment
where we start to be
with
them
not
for tham.
If justice
wishes to judge
right
vs wrong.
Realizing empathy
yields
discoveries
or creations.
On that integrates,
even if momentarily,
right
and wrong.
We think
job creation
is about more open positions
with job descriptions:
something only employers
can do.
Anybody
can create a job
if they can understand the problem
someone needs solving.
If you’re an employee
and you don’t like your job
you could find a problem in your company
someone with the funds
want solved
you can volunteer to solve it
and make that your job
When we make
a decision,
that we do not like
the most common rationalization
is that we have
no choice.
The more honest answer may be
“Please don’t blame me.
It wasn’t my fault.”
May we separate being at fault
or fearing blame
with not having a choice.
Or at least thinking there is no other choice.
There are choices,
we simply choose not to choose them
or we choose not to learn them.
But it’s ok.
Be honest.
It’s not your fault.
Sometimes
we test someone’s reliability
without sharing
our criteria.
Fair enough.
But testing their reliability
without a clear criteria
for the test
basically sets them up
for failure.
If you have strong opinions on something,
but worried you’re not actually testing their skills
frame your opinion as concerns and desired outcomes.
Do them in a way that allows as much freedom for the person to come up with the means to alleviate your concerns and achieve your desired outcomes.
Its easy to judge
losing
as “bad.”
As long as we love someone
or something
we will eventually
lose them.
The only way not to lose
is to never
love.
What we often forget
is that while we love
because we have yet to lose
we dont
appreciate.
And only appreciate
after we have lost.
Once you realize
that taking responsibility
is not the same as taking blame
but rather points
to our ability
to respond,
may also be the moment we realize
that sharing responsibility
is simply gather the ability of others
to respond
together.
What we focus on
is sometimes a result
of a burden
we’re carrying.
That focus can be released
when others release us
from the burden.
I was focused on making the website perfect to make sure I’m supporting connie to the best of my ability,
then she told me I don’t have to work on the website anymore because it was enough and it will never be perfect enough to answer all the questions that we cannot possibly anticipate getting, then I felt a relief from my shoulder, it was then an only then that I realized it was a burden I was carrying. The burden that I must make the website perfect or else I’m not doing my job or my responsibility that I’m not being enough.
More is not enough
Less is not lack
