Realizing Empathy | Blog

What if
all we’re trying to do
all our lives
is find a sign
that tells us
that we are worthy
of living?

That there is this
feeling of shame
that we wish to erase
of having ever been born
at all.

It may be
that when we admit our fear
of death,
we value our loved ones
so much more
than the perception of others
that we decide to do things
without caring too much
what others think.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20160208-why-contemplating-death-changes-how-you-think

An empathic conversation
is a conversation
where two things happen
1. you feel heard
2. you see what you could not see before

1. you want others to feel heard
2. you want to see what you could not see before

Managing individuals
is different
from managing a system.

Its easy to confuse
system
with infrastructure

To better understand,
imagine managing a garden
instead of managing a machine

Why talk about unpleasant things
when we dont have enough time
for pleasant things

is often an effective way
of numbing ourselves
from experiencing
then processing the unplesant emotions
which provides insight into what is really going on

With care
and compassion,
I looked at my child
wanting to fix
what may be broke.

Maybe his trousers were unbuckled.
Maybe his socks weren’t up.
Maybe his hairs aren’t combed.

Having realized empathy,
I now appreciate
the fact
that all they saw
was my critical face.