What if Irony is Judging Others for Lacking Empathy?
If psychologists
can name
our experience
so can anybody.
If so,
may we name it
in such a way
that we feel more curious
about it
as if to take interest
in a pet
or a friend.
Someone
we are more likely
to spend the time and energy
required
to learn to understand
and appreciate.
They say
the key to happiness
is lowering
expectations.
Choosing to let go
of what we wish
to see.
Perhaps
sometimes.
But at others times
we can also experience happiness
by discovering
or creating value
through respecting.
By learning the choice
to see what is already there
in a new way.
from what we took for granted,
what we once assumed
too mundane
or worthless
There are things
we consider
unimportant
that becomes important
when the context changes.
For example
when I have a deadline,
I don’t care what I eat.
I may simply eat some ramen noodles
and instead spend the time travelling back-and-forth to a restaurant
on doing the work.
But if I have already made the effort to get to a restaurant,
the quality of the food
becomes important.
So it’s inaccurate to judge someone as
not caring about the quality of food,
because they do care
when the context is a certain way.
When we hyperfocus on something
anxiety-inducing
the weight of it makes it difficult
for us to do anything else
in these cases,
it’s important to take the long-term
what arey ou ultimately trying to do
by making progress on the subject of rumination
you may realize this is not as important
in which case the weight lessen
and you make room to do others things
more important
not that you won’t do it,
but you’ll do it with greater ease.
Confronted
with a table saw
whirring its blade,
what one may realize
is that to navigate
uncertainty
need not require
certainty
but may be
clarity.
uncertainty -> stall -> hesitation – > stuck -> imobile
There is no certainty
that we may not get injured
by the table saw,
and yet we proceed
so long as we can see
clearly.