When I get that job,
I’ll feel happy.
When I hit $100mm ARR,
I’ll feel happy.
When I exit,
I’ll feel happy.
Month: February 2025
Easily Confused
More is not enough
Less is not lack
Hyper Empathizing vs Empathizing
When we hyper empathize,
we think
‘I had the same experience they had.
I made it through
so they can make it,
too.’
Empathizing
says
‘Sure, I had a similar experience
they had,
but what’s more important
is that I commit
to being by your side
while you go through
this painful experience
your on way.
Cards Stacked Against
If to be human
is to be in support
and to be supported
Cards arestacked against being human
we don’t learn how to support others
so despire best intentions, we often hurt them
we dont’ seek out support
either because others suck at supporting us so why both
or we are afraid of being judged as weak or incomptent if we do
Meaningless Phrases
When others have done something
that was genuinely difficult for them,
phrases like
thank you
or I appreciate you
may come across
as meaningless.
May we take a moment
to be specific
on what it is that we appreciate
or what it is that we are grateful
Debt
Gratitude
is not an expression
of indebtedness.
It is an acknowledgmenet
of value.
We need not wait
to be personally indebted to someone
to express gratitude toward them.
Both not Either
You can feel
grateful
with what you have
and still want
more.
You can feel
anger
and still
love them.
You can feel
Survival, Byproduct, and Focus
What we do for our survival
isn’t selfish
it’s natural
and normal.
Others might not like it
but it doesn’t make it
selfish
When we help,
we don’t realize we’re focused
on our own pain and discomfort
but it is when and only when
we can relieve ourselves of tension
and be present enough with our pain and discomfort
to have room in our being
to be with another person’s pain and discomfort
that we can serve
and the byproduct of that is we feel fulfilled
but our fulfillment is not the focus
Ready for Feedback
I will ask for feedback
once I’m ready.
No.
You become ready
by getting feedback.